So… I broke up with the geek
2012 is NOT off to a great start. Well, actually, that depends on how you look at it, and possibly will depend on the light of future events. But right now, I’ll have to say it’s sucking big time.
Although I guess it’s also unfair to generalize. I love my work (most days), my finances are in order, I’m hardly stressed, and I have a Japan trip to look forward to. BUT, I’ve somehow managed to break up with two boys in the span of a month. My dating life is not at all doing well. :|
I’m still saving my M stories for later. Let’s deal with P for now, as P is definitely less complicated.
The last time, I said I hope our Sun-date would be eventful. It was, in that I decided to stop dating him. It didn’t have much to do with the actual date, but with what I saw in his blog.
Apparently, he has been dating two girls. One me, and one not me. I guess technically it’s okay, since we haven’t talked about exclusively dating or anything. But I guess at this point I really don’t want a complicated love life, so I decided that at the first instance that he actually brings it up (because I don’t want him to know that I’ve been reading his blog and I want him to be the one to say it to me), I would stop dating him.
Long story short, he finally told me last Sunday that he was also seeing someone else. I was all cool about it (thanks to the fact that I already knew about it prior to that conversation) but told him that I can’t see him anymore if that’s the case. He said he respected my decision but asked if we could still be friends. I said sure, and then he whined about being friendzoned (who’s complicated now?), so I told him to not think that I’m friendzoning him, but only putting a pause to our dating until he can resolve his dating issues and decide to date me exclusively (if that happens).
I have to say, that was the most mature break-up I’ve ever experienced.
The amusing thing, though, is that since then, we’ve been texting much, much more than ever. A night after the break-up, he started texting me, doing some twisted post-hoc analysis, asking why I didn’t ask him to choose me and make him stop dating the other girl, blah blah. Whuuut. I felt like I was the guy, being pestered by a whiny ex-girlfriend. At one point, he even theorized that I might have a low self-esteem because I didn’t ask him to choose me (because he said I was probably thinking he might not choose me). I was like, “Um, I didn’t ask you to choose me because I can’t tell you how to date. That’s something you have to decide for yourself. What I can do, though, is to refuse to be one of your girls.” At this, he took back what he said about my self-esteem, lolol.
I don’t know how this will all turn out in the end. Maybe another guy will come? IDK. But for now, I have a lot of catching up with fandom to do. ♥
Although I guess it’s also unfair to generalize. I love my work (most days), my finances are in order, I’m hardly stressed, and I have a Japan trip to look forward to. BUT, I’ve somehow managed to break up with two boys in the span of a month. My dating life is not at all doing well. :|
I’m still saving my M stories for later. Let’s deal with P for now, as P is definitely less complicated.
The last time, I said I hope our Sun-date would be eventful. It was, in that I decided to stop dating him. It didn’t have much to do with the actual date, but with what I saw in his blog.
Apparently, he has been dating two girls. One me, and one not me. I guess technically it’s okay, since we haven’t talked about exclusively dating or anything. But I guess at this point I really don’t want a complicated love life, so I decided that at the first instance that he actually brings it up (because I don’t want him to know that I’ve been reading his blog and I want him to be the one to say it to me), I would stop dating him.
Long story short, he finally told me last Sunday that he was also seeing someone else. I was all cool about it (thanks to the fact that I already knew about it prior to that conversation) but told him that I can’t see him anymore if that’s the case. He said he respected my decision but asked if we could still be friends. I said sure, and then he whined about being friendzoned (who’s complicated now?), so I told him to not think that I’m friendzoning him, but only putting a pause to our dating until he can resolve his dating issues and decide to date me exclusively (if that happens).
I have to say, that was the most mature break-up I’ve ever experienced.
The amusing thing, though, is that since then, we’ve been texting much, much more than ever. A night after the break-up, he started texting me, doing some twisted post-hoc analysis, asking why I didn’t ask him to choose me and make him stop dating the other girl, blah blah. Whuuut. I felt like I was the guy, being pestered by a whiny ex-girlfriend. At one point, he even theorized that I might have a low self-esteem because I didn’t ask him to choose me (because he said I was probably thinking he might not choose me). I was like, “Um, I didn’t ask you to choose me because I can’t tell you how to date. That’s something you have to decide for yourself. What I can do, though, is to refuse to be one of your girls.” At this, he took back what he said about my self-esteem, lolol.
I don’t know how this will all turn out in the end. Maybe another guy will come? IDK. But for now, I have a lot of catching up with fandom to do. ♥