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[littlest_flame]

So I'm talking to my friend Chris... and I tell him something very important. And completely out of the fucking blue he hits me with this little stretch of conversation.

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[cosmicbabe]

First, the marriage between me & your father didn't work because I was too young, he was an abusive bastard, and we hadn't known each other long enough to realize how incompatible we were when we leapt into it. It had nothing to do with you being a girl.

Second, this dick clearly knows nothing about marriage, aside from his own experience. NOTHING holds a marriage together other than both people deciding, EVERY single day of their lives, to make it work. That's why I've been with Geoffrey for 8 (happy & healthy) years, not because of kids or lack of them. In fact, children are the NUMBER ONE stress that can be put on a marriage!!!

Don't waste your time on people like this. He sounds very controlling.

[serenecalamity]

... D: What an ass.

I can't speak for everyone, but having an autistic child certainly hasn't helped my parents' marriage. Dad's threatened to leave more than once and Mum's afraid that nothing will change when Zachary goes into a hospice.

[darkmoon_light]

Well, fuck that guy, Peaches. If he's going to be a self-centered, conceited, baby-pushing asshole about your awesome new status, he can rock in hell for all I care. Someone who acts like that ain't someone you should be hanging with.

It just ain't healthy.

One of my lightbulbs just went out. Huh.

Anyways, I'm over here and able to do some marrying once you guys get around to it, if you want. :D

[freexrus]

Darlin, I love you. You have to know that being engaged as young as you are is a sweet and hopeful thing. It's great and every moment is beautiful. But it is also silly and doomed. You don't know anything about real commitment,and no one your age does. You think you're adult because you can drink and pay your own bills, but there are years of experience you need before you can know it's right to get married. If you're planning on a long engagement, good. You have to know it's right. I agree that this douche is a bad guy. Kids have nothing to do with it. But maturity does. I hope you don't take this the wrong way. I do love you, kiddo.

[nobu]

Yeah, to repeat what they all said: that guy is an idiot. Marriage has nothing to do with kids.

That said, a long engagement is a good idea at pretty much any age. And despite the stupid pop literature on the subject, I fully think living with someone before taking the legal leap is a smart idea. There are all kinds of issues that you won't know about until you've lived with someone for a while and worked out how you both deal with things like space, monies, and all those annoying reality thingies.

hugs and congrats!