Question:

[semiperfect]

My boyfriend is an existentialist (borderline agnostic) and I am a pagan (former Catholic).

What happens when we decide to get married?

How can we cope with each other's ideas, especially if we have children later on in life?

Comments

[nightshade_oak]

Honestly I think everything depends on the couple. On who you each are individually as well as who you are as a couple. Many interfaith marriages work very well and come complete with happy, well-adjusted children. Others do not. What makes such a partnership work, I do not know. Respect, obviously, and love. Other than that...

[annabellle]

he needs to udnerstand that you're going to be true to your faith, and You need to understand that he's going to be true to his faith. When love's involved, it's all about compromise. Wedding, find something in the middle. Have two weddings - a hand fasthing and a traditional (i don't know what he woudl would, i'm just throwing that out there) or non religious.
I've never expected i would date or even marry another pagan. It would be ideal, but I've just set myself up to expect that it won't happen, so i don't let myself down. I"ve always said i'd raise my kids teaching htem about all religions so that they could make their own minds up. And i'd just have to hope that my partner would be as willing to do that as well.

[animamea]

My fiance is agnostic. He doesn't care about anyone's religion as long as they don't try to convert him. Since I never tried such a silly thing, we've been fine. ^_^

We're getting handfasted on the 19th (omg so many last minute things!) because he knows it's important to me.

I teach my daughter about different religions and philosophies so she can choose when she's older.

So, it *can* work, as long as you respect each other's beliefs. It's best to start talking about it early so it doesn't come up after you've announced the engagement.