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[llamas_for_you]

Is anyone else who's around my age (20ish) reaching a point in your life where you really want to settle down? Not necessarily settle down, just find someone to spend the rest of your life with. Not really even the rest of your life...just a few good years. Everyone seems to be getting engaged and into serious relationships...and mine's falling

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[ravinsky]

I don't feel that way at all. I'm happy with what I'm doing in my life and know who I am. I don't need anybody else right now cause there's so many things I want to do on my own.

Maybe you've been with someone so long that you forgot what it's like to be alone.

[llamas_for_you]

Yeah, that's exactly what happened. I wish I could be more how you are...I have a feeling I'll grow out of it.

[ravinsky]

yeah you will, you just have to get used to being alone again. Truthfully I'm afraid of having a seriously committed relationship because I don't want to loose myself and I get so afraid that will happen.

You took a risk and that's what relationships are about. Just because this happened don't be afraid of another one.

[guineverespeaks]

when i was twenty, settling down and finding someone to love me forever was all i wanted to do. but, i have to take into consideration that i was going through the worst break up of my life then and analyzing everything i'd ever thought about relationships. i had then, and still have now, thoughts sometimes that i'd like to just flit about in the wind and date ten boys at once and things like that. but mostly, i think i'm most happy when i'm chin deep in a relationship, happy and secure and comfortable.

but no matter how much you want that, if you're with someone who it won't work with, you should not try to make it work. i learned that the hard way. (the very hard way, because i was and still am very stubborn.)

[llamas_for_you]

I know how you feel...I really just need to learn to quit pushing. I try waaaaay too hard.