Not really new and exciting. Just the usual lines the poly-pros use to self-aggrandize their life choices.
Polyamory is fine. But I get kinda tied of the polyamorous acting superior, as if somehow their love is more "capable" or they are somehow "stronger" because they are poly. That's just as BS as me saying *my* love is "stronger" because I only need one person to be perfectly happy. :/
Poly isn't any better than Mono. It's just different.
This line especially pissed me off:
"We're just doing what everyone else is doing anyway. The difference is that we're not lying about it."
Bullshit. Tell yourselves that all you want, but there sure as hell are people out here who 100% prefer monogamy and can make it work. And even if *most* "everyone else" is doing it anyway, I guess that makes us few true monogamists the tougher, stronger, better, etc ones, huh?* :P
-Nick
* Note: I don't believe this, I'm just being fussy.
Some poly people believe that, it's true. You know me well enough, I think, to know that I don't believe that. They are different ways to be. Some people can be poly, some can't. Some want to be and fail, others don't want to, but would succeed admirably.
It's more along the lines that it was, overall, a *very* positive article about the lifestyle in the WASHINGTON POST, of all places. Means that positive information about poly is out there for people to read.
I'm just so frustrated that there are so many *bad* articles/books/whatever written about it. We get so much negative press that it's hard to be open about that kind of lifestyle, for fear of things like DSS taking away kids, persecution at the workplace, etc.
We need more positive information available to the general public.
Oh, and the viewpoint that poly is 'acknowledged cheating' is another one that is out there, and pisses me off big-time. Gah. But I could go on about this all night, and dinner's ready.
I know you don't believe it...I was referring to the verbiage used by most of the people who allowed themselves to be interviewed and quoted.
It *was* a potentially positive article. But poly seems to have the same psychological problem as most other geek-related subcultures...when offered an opportunity to present themselves to the mainstream, they shoot themselves in the foot. Possibly because they feel like they need to take the rare opportunity to preach their beliefs, or justify themselves, or who knows.
The way to become accepted by the general public is *not* by telling them how much better you are than they. That rarely works for making *anyone* like you. That's pretty much my point. It was a great opportunity, and I won't say it was squandered (it wasn't)...but it was certainly utilized sub-optimally. And pushed a few of my buttons. :)
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Polyamory is fine. But I get kinda tied of the polyamorous acting superior, as if somehow their love is more "capable" or they are somehow "stronger" because they are poly. That's just as BS as me saying *my* love is "stronger" because I only need one person to be perfectly happy. :/
Poly isn't any better than Mono. It's just different.
This line especially pissed me off:
"We're just doing what everyone else is doing anyway. The difference is that we're not lying about it."
Bullshit. Tell yourselves that all you want, but there sure as hell are people out here who 100% prefer monogamy and can make it work. And even if *most* "everyone else" is doing it anyway, I guess that makes us few true monogamists the tougher, stronger, better, etc ones, huh?* :P
-Nick
* Note: I don't believe this, I'm just being fussy.
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It's more along the lines that it was, overall, a *very* positive article about the lifestyle in the WASHINGTON POST, of all places. Means that positive information about poly is out there for people to read.
I'm just so frustrated that there are so many *bad* articles/books/whatever written about it. We get so much negative press that it's hard to be open about that kind of lifestyle, for fear of things like DSS taking away kids, persecution at the workplace, etc.
We need more positive information available to the general public.
Oh, and the viewpoint that poly is 'acknowledged cheating' is another one that is out there, and pisses me off big-time. Gah. But I could go on about this all night, and dinner's ready.
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It *was* a potentially positive article. But poly seems to have the same psychological problem as most other geek-related subcultures...when offered an opportunity to present themselves to the mainstream, they shoot themselves in the foot. Possibly because they feel like they need to take the rare opportunity to preach their beliefs, or justify themselves, or who knows.
The way to become accepted by the general public is *not* by telling them how much better you are than they. That rarely works for making *anyone* like you. That's pretty much my point. It was a great opportunity, and I won't say it was squandered (it wasn't)...but it was certainly utilized sub-optimally. And pushed a few of my buttons. :)
-Nick
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