Congratulations and Condolences - which is what I always say when people have news that has good and bad connotations. It's wonderful that you have found someone with whom to spend the rest of your life. It is terrible that you are about to discover in agonizing detail all the things about that person that drive you nuts. And you have to plan a wedding on top of it!
Just the first piece of advice of many that you will get that I tell every engaged couple I meet, based on a mistake that my wife and I made for our own wedding:
Invitations go out SIX MONTHS IN ADVANCE.
Period.
Because if you do like we did and let them get pushed back and pushed back and pushed back until they get out six weeks in advance, no one shows.
I don't know about the agonizing details - we've been living together for over a year and a half now, so I think I know most of his quirks pretty well!
That is hella early for invitations! We'll be sending out Save-the-Date cards about eight months in advance (lots of people coming from out of town; they need the advance warning) and then our actual invitations will probably go out about two months ahead of time. We'll be making all of our paper goods ourselves though, so that is subject to how much time it takes us!
A lot of couples do that nowadays, and I wonder how well that works. My wife and I had been living together unofficially for about six months before we got married, and I know a lot of other couples who have lived that way, so it seems to be becoming the norm, but trust me, even after three years, I still find myself inadvertently driving my wife insane.
Sounds like a very good plan. Having save the date cards so they know a formal invite is coming is a great way to buy yourselves time on the invites, particularly if you are going to be doing it yourselves.
Well, I think it's natural to sometimes drive your wife crazy, and vice-versa. It's how you get past the arguments that really matter. I'm not too worried about us; we've been through some pretty difficult things together and always come out ahead.
We're making the save the date cards too, so I'll have to get started on those soon! We're planning the wedding for Halloween 2009 - it's on Saturday! Nothing too cheesy, of course, but we will have a nice candy buffet.
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Just the first piece of advice of many that you will get that I tell every engaged couple I meet, based on a mistake that my wife and I made for our own wedding:
Invitations go out SIX MONTHS IN ADVANCE.
Period.
Because if you do like we did and let them get pushed back and pushed back and pushed back until they get out six weeks in advance, no one shows.
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That is hella early for invitations! We'll be sending out Save-the-Date cards about eight months in advance (lots of people coming from out of town; they need the advance warning) and then our actual invitations will probably go out about two months ahead of time. We'll be making all of our paper goods ourselves though, so that is subject to how much time it takes us!
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Sounds like a very good plan. Having save the date cards so they know a formal invite is coming is a great way to buy yourselves time on the invites, particularly if you are going to be doing it yourselves.
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We're making the save the date cards too, so I'll have to get started on those soon! We're planning the wedding for Halloween 2009 - it's on Saturday! Nothing too cheesy, of course, but we will have a nice candy buffet.
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