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anonymous
July 18 2006, 13:47:50 UTC
I think the problem is that you and Faith were enmeshed. There wasn't that point of detachment, like there should be in any friendship. The lines were blurred- you couldn't say, Well, this is my business and this is hers. It was Frankenfaith. That's not healthy for anyone.
You especially are vulnerable to enmeshing because you're malleable. You have a very strong personality, you're completely your own person, but there's a giving in you. Like if someone pushes, you won't push back. It makes you very nice to be around, but when you get to close to very controlling, manipulative people, like Faith, or me, it's very easy to get too close.
We were enmeshed for a while. Remember when you said that you felt like everything you did, you had to think if I would approve, if I would be hurt? That's enmeshment, and it was dangerous. It didn't lead to any sort of healthy attitude towards each other.
Of course, we fixed things. Because you're so malleable, you don't really hate anyone for long, if they've been your friend. I think it's good
( ... )
=\ Arr. Maybe... I think... I think that might happen. Keep in mind, I was with faith for a year before I met ya and then a year after. =\
But you're definitely right- it's that connection we made (OMG PHILOTIQUELOL) that made things so... so painful.
I don't know that I want to be friends with her anymore, seeing as my mother hates her guts. With you... my mom always said we were too close but she never hated you. Even when I was uber super angry, she was always like "omgz get over it."
It feels different with her. Maybe I'm just being dramatic and whiny... *sigh*
Thanks for the comment dahlink. <33 You're right about one think. I'm gonna be away from faith for quite a while before I figure out what I'm gonna do next.
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BUT I FRICKING MISS YOU!!!!!!!!!!!
:'(
paigey is losted wif out her frankums.
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You especially are vulnerable to enmeshing because you're malleable. You have a very strong personality, you're completely your own person, but there's a giving in you. Like if someone pushes, you won't push back. It makes you very nice to be around, but when you get to close to very controlling, manipulative people, like Faith, or me, it's very easy to get too close.
We were enmeshed for a while. Remember when you said that you felt like everything you did, you had to think if I would approve, if I would be hurt? That's enmeshment, and it was dangerous. It didn't lead to any sort of healthy attitude towards each other.
Of course, we fixed things. Because you're so malleable, you don't really hate anyone for long, if they've been your friend. I think it's good ( ... )
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But you're definitely right- it's that connection we made (OMG PHILOTIQUELOL) that made things so... so painful.
I don't know that I want to be friends with her anymore, seeing as my mother hates her guts. With you... my mom always said we were too close but she never hated you. Even when I was uber super angry, she was always like "omgz get over it."
It feels different with her. Maybe I'm just being dramatic and whiny... *sigh*
Thanks for the comment dahlink. <33 You're right about one think. I'm gonna be away from faith for quite a while before I figure out what I'm gonna do next.
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