Unexpected triggers (Open Source Boob Project)

[lorriet]

If the title doesn't make any sense to you, then, well, you aren't as LJ obsessed as I am. There has been a whole shitstorm over one (very popular) LJ blogger's post about a recent con he attended

Comments

[jinglechelle]

I totally get how you feel about this. There was a day in my life when I well and truly realized it was not my fault, and that others were willing to make a stand... and here is what happened

[dandyloo]

...there were comments made by some women who have never experienced any unwanted contact that (paraphrasing) implied or stated that the reason they hadn't experienced it was because they had firm boundaries and were able to project that so people don't ever cross the line with them.

Until someone creepy enough comes along to shatter these people's illusions, they will continue to believe that they are exuding some kind of force field. They're just lucky. Everyone is vulnerable, and it's not your fault if some jerk does something to you that you don't want them to.

*random person here from feministing*

[anne_jumps]

I've not been subject to any of it - for a moment, I wondered what was wrong with me - am I less attractive than they are, that no one's been hitting on me?

It's weird and awful, isn't it? Women who get harassed wonder if they did something to deserve it. Women (like me) who get ignored wonder what is going on when everyone else has a harassment story and they don't. I can't claim to begin to understand the harasser's mindset, but I feel safe in saying that it's not the fault of the harassed or the ignored. But it is hard not to feel that way.

[oakdragon]

I can understand

[mlerules]

GAH - so NOT your fault...so sorry you feel this way, even if just for a while...