To Write or to Sleep, Choices in an Alternative Lifestyle

[lost_angel]

I had a choice, this morning, to write or to take a nap that would complete the last phase of my sleep schedule shift. I, of course, took the less responsible path and stayed awake to write. "Responsible to whom?" I should ask, since I feel I owe it to myself to write. Is it baseless pride that I think myself talented and grieve for my lack of

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[watercamel]

I'm sorry your mother feels that way about Jimmy and your family antiques. A little anecdote from my family- My mother's cousin was married and they had many of the family heirlooms including letters and furniture. His wife ended the marriage in a very dramatic way and opened up the house to all the neighbors giving away for free most of MY family treasures (not hers of course). Marriage will not prevent your family antiques from being "stolen". Choosing the right partner should.

[lost_angel]

Exactly. The best way to judge people's character is to watch them when they're in control (waitresses, pets, children) and when they're pissed off. If they still act a responsible, caring person in tough situations, they're a keeper. Jimmy is a reasonable and honorable person even when he is angry (with bosses, clients, and even ex-wives). My mom really likes Jimmy, but she was so badly burned from her own divorce that she doesn't trust any man.

Your removed cousin's story is a perfect but disgusting example of how marriage offers you no protection from the misconduct of others. All it gives you is a right to sue your ex because you had a legal claim to the "things" you shared.

[birdofparadox]

I'm so very sorry she's drawn this line in the sand regarding you guys' relationship.

You two make me smile.

[stephaneyney]

Wow. I hate that this happened. It is hard to deal with society's expectations of what is right. My mom has now warmly embraced Kirk, now that we are married, but there was always a distance when we were "living in sin."

You are right. A legal document does not make love stronger; it does not protect it in any way...we can see this in all of the divorces throughout this country.

*Hug*

[haabda]

Your mother's stated reasons don't make any sense to me. I would understand if she was giving you a religious defense of her misgivings, but a property defense just doesn't hold up. Your are absolutely correct in that your property is more protected now than it would be if you were married.