transmasculine blues

[lost_dreamer44]

Lindsay and I officially took the leap from 'dating' to full-blown relationship, and I'm finally comfortable with the use of the word girlfriend (lets not get into how I would prefer boyfriend. another time, another place). She told me the other night that she could fall in love with me, and while it completely floored me I realized that not only

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[prettyboicris]

Hey buddy I hear you. Have you thought about socially transitioning? You can live as male and get your name and stuff changed without going on T or having surgery if you decided that those things werent for you. If being the male you makes you happy then maybe that might be something that you want to pay attention to. I can only speak from experience but the longer you keep it from the light the more it will eat at you and eventually it may start to eat at your relationship.

Be well

Cris

[kaygigi]

I used to wonder what it would have been like to be born male. But eventually I came to the conclusion that, at least for myself, maleness wouldn't have solved the "problem" - the problem of being a masculine-identified person in a female body. Instead, I realized that I would be (assuming continuity of sexual orientation and other personality traits) a somewhat feminine straight man. I would have been born into a lot more privilege than I currently have, which to some would be great (yey, privilege!) but for me, that means I would have been a lot less aware of the injustices around me. I would not have questioned the meaning of gender and perhaps would have been threatened by those who do question it, in part because despite masculine identity, there are parts of me that are decidedly classed as feminine (oh shopping, how you tempt me into spending money