Eh nothing specific. There's just been a lot of bad stuff that has happened over the last couple years that so called friends have done to one another. I finally decided like feeling posting something about it. I just don't understand how certain people can treat their friends so badly. It doesn't make any sense. If you want to treat someone that badly, why bother calling them a friend at all? I just feel lucky to have the friends that I have.
I tend to trust my friends more so than most of my family for the fact that my family is more willing to toss me under the bus than most of my friends are. I've tried to be more aware of my friends and be softer with them than I really am, because I know they can leave, and will, if they don't like how I'm treating them. It's easy to offhandedly make a hurtful statement, step on someone's toes or offend their sensibilities, but I think the true testament to the friendship is the willingness of the other party to let that person know that they feel wrong and want the other person to make amends, even if amends is an apology. Is there a responsibility on the other party to let the other person know they feel wronged? To let them know that they don't feel as if they're being treated as they want to be? If there's no actions taken to let the other person know that they feel hurt, then they're the ones who ultimately end the friendship, not the one who has hurt them.
Re: RhetoricalchibiflameOctober 29 2008, 01:34:53 UTC
" It's easy to offhandedly..." Looking back, 'easy' isn't exactly the word I wanted to use for a blanket statement like I was making. Neutral down that statement anyway you feel fit to make it clear that the intent to hurt isn't there.
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I've tried to be more aware of my friends and be softer with them than I really am, because I know they can leave, and will, if they don't like how I'm treating them. It's easy to offhandedly make a hurtful statement, step on someone's toes or offend their sensibilities, but I think the true testament to the friendship is the willingness of the other party to let that person know that they feel wrong and want the other person to make amends, even if amends is an apology. Is there a responsibility on the other party to let the other person know they feel wronged? To let them know that they don't feel as if they're being treated as they want to be? If there's no actions taken to let the other person know that they feel hurt, then they're the ones who ultimately end the friendship, not the one who has hurt them.
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Looking back, 'easy' isn't exactly the word I wanted to use for a blanket statement like I was making. Neutral down that statement anyway you feel fit to make it clear that the intent to hurt isn't there.
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