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[lotusmilk]

for a woman, anxiety with a man comes from a father who didn't love you unconditionally.

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[swung]

so 84% of the female population are madwomen.

[lotusmilk]

why do you think the neurotic female is such a cliché?

[swung]

is that a rhetorical question?

i was blessed with a lover containing the heart of a true mother & the hands, arms, & honor of a gladiator. yet my anxiety is thorough, my father left my brothers and i when i was 9. he left on a plane, said he was going on a business trip, but i remember crying like i'd never see him again, i guess i knew.

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[swung]

my mother's father was an emotionally abusive alcoholic, he was never present and i remember him always falling asleep at the kitchen table ... my mother got knocked up three times by the time she was 26, my father left & she became a lesbian.

[in_blue_not_red]

would you say it were the same if the rolls were
reversed?

[lotusmilk]

í can only speak for women because i am one. :)

and even then, it all depends on the person.

what would you say?

[in_blue_not_red]

i don't know.
i only have my own experience which is clouded by my own experience. I don't get into relationships due to my inability to read a lot of social signals that people put forth when showing interest in another. Can't be anxious about what you can't see.

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[lotusmilk]

do you want the stability a relationship can bring? or do you think stability comes from another place?

social signals can be hard to follow when you don't have a social mind.

i am more anxious of the unknown, i think, rather than what i can see. i still hold on to that illusion of control.

xo

[asofterversion]

Makes sense.

[freshmowngrass]

i wish it wasn't so true, so real, that even when i am loved silently i doubt it for i have been taught that silence is rejection; i am learning how to memorise and conjure everyone elses words to try and erase it all...