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[loudmeggaphone]

Hello all!! Long time no update, I know. But as everyone here knows I have been on vacation for the last two weeks. Well technically I am still on vacation but am now in recovery mode. And man what a vacation it was!! Amazing, I cannot even begin to describe everything. I think what I will try to do is go day by day otherwise my post would

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[vampireanneke]

I will be at Pheonix Rising, not sure about Prophecy (it's HP Fanon and thus I fear alot of problems, and there is the costs...but knowing myself I will most likely end up going.) I should be going to Convention Alley 2 as it sounds like alot of fun, but that's not for two years and things change.

Happy to find you on-line. (Hugs) Can't wait to hear the details (blush) then maybe I don't want to hear such. I'm glad to hear your mother was cool about things. Your life really hasn't changed that much. The hardest part is just dealing with a society that isn't very accepting. (Shrugs) But luckily you have alot of support from friends.

[loudmeggaphone]

I really do hope you can make it to Prophecy, but if you cannot, well it will be disappointing but that's life.

So glad to find you and it didn't even take that long (big hug). If you want details, I would rather we do it over email or something so others cannot read it.

I was suprised at how well she took it. Although at one point she did ask me if my father walking out had anything to do with my decision. (Rolls eyes) Not really a decision, it is who I am, but I think I can understand her concern. I am lucky in regards to reactions so far. No on has completely flipped out, been disgusted or dropped our friendship/relationship so far. I have yet to have a negative response; although one friend does not understand or really agree with it, but he and I are working on it.

I do have amazing friends, and I just seem to keep picking up more.

[vampireanneke]

I was teasing, I don't want real details. You however can find me via yahoo chat and aim via the same nickname as LJ and everywhere else.

I haven't told my parents I'm bi, until such time as I end up with a female and have to explain. I could just as easily end up with a male (and I'm sooo picky about my females), and then they never need know or worry about such.

[loudmeggaphone]

Ok, I just added you to my yahoo messenger list.

I wasn't planning on telling my parents until I had a girlfriend. I thought it would make things easier since I expected one of the questions to be "Well how do you know, have you ever been with a woman?" and I think it would have been easier if I could say that I had. But of course life does not go according to plans, at least not ours. She did ask that question but seemed to accept my reply of "I just know". We shall see.

[jmpovrthemoon23]

I have the "Are you a lesbian?" conversation about once a week with my mother. She doesn't seem to want to accept my answer...

It's good that your mom was open and accepting of it though. This may be a bad comparison, but seriously, when I told my family I was going vegetarian they all acted weird for a while like I was going to have a spaz attack anytime any one of them ate a burger. People always act weird when you make some life change wheather it be small like vegetarianism or more important like sexuality. Then they get over it. Give it some time.

[loudmeggaphone]

Yikes, I cannot imagine having to have that talk more then once, it was bad enough as is.

Yeah I was surprised at her reaction. It went so much better then I expected, but then again human nature always expects the worst huh? I don't know if she will get over it but I think with time you are right, she will completley accept it and hopefully begin to treat me as she used to. Time will tell.

[sheryll]

I'm glad it went so well with your mother. If you think she's having problems dealing with it, you can always tell her about PFLAG and see if she's interested in talking to other parents who've been in similar situation.

It sounds like she's handling very well, though. You mention that she agrees with you that your father doesn't need to know yet and that shows that she respects your wishes.

I suspect that I'm not the norm as far as parents go, as Nyssa and I once had the following conversation before her going to a senior formal in high school:

Me: So, who are you going with?
N: Friends?
Me: Not any particular guy?
N: No
Me: A girfriend? (and she knew I meant this in the romantic sense)
N: MOM!!!! (as in, jeez, stop asking so many questions) :D

[loudmeggaphone]

Eventually I will mention PFLAG to her, but right now I think she is still in a bit of shock. I do agree that is seems to be handling it well, which of course I am really grateful for. But at the same time I cannot help but wonder if maybe she is taking it too well? I am half afraid the other shoe is yet to drop.

You definetely sound like a very cool mother!!

[harry_crazy]

We Moms aren't as bad as everyone makes us out to be! Just be happy, that's all we want...oh, and grandkids! :)