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[csandiegooo]

From the end of March through Mid-May I had a fling with a man. Very intense and passionate. Around May 20th, I left and came back to my home country (where I will be for the forseeable future). Even after I left for the first few days he continued correspondence via Facebook. I didn't respond to any of these until finally I told him I was going to

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[pmeister]

I am no expert on communication with the opposite sex otherwise my 'friend' would still be talking with me, however are you familiar with Big Bang Theory and the episode about Schrödinger's cat. Look it up - essentially if he is worth it then "you need to look in the box to find out if it is dead or alive". Therefore I would drop him a line on Facebook, casually say something irrelevant (if he is a soccer fan he will be distracted by Italy's game tonight and casual should work) and then ask him what he thought of your letter. If he did not get it he will tell you. If he did and has chosen not to respond after such a period of time I would guess he is not as keen as you hope and his last concern will be that you are pressurising him. Good luck.

[pansyvoid]

I would ask him. perhaps he's trying to figure some grand gesture back but at the same time the suspense is a real stressful wait. and like you said, european mail can take a while and is sometimes unreliable. it took a month for a small package to get to scotland. best of luck to you

[tacit]

Ask him on Facebook whenever you want to

[araminya]

Seconding tacit...

20 days since you sent it? Well, I would think he hasn't gotten it yet - I think it can easily take that time, or at least almost, just sending mail within Europe. Took almost two weeks for a couple of packages to arrive to Sweden from Finland once, I think.

[floatin_wind]

Regarding Italy's postal services-- I have a friend in Italy I've sent mail too from Canada, and Italy's postal services are horribly slow. A letter could take months to get to your guy there, because of the postal service. Again, that's been my experience, but I have mailed 4 items to Italy over the past 2 years, and the fastest letter got to my friend in 3 months. I've pretty much given up on the postal service in Italy.

However, regarding the true question in your post, I think you should just contact him and ask him if he's interested in a long distance relationship? Sure, it's scary, but it would be just better to take this head on rather than sit and contemplate and build your apprehension. When you have no dialogue, your head and heart can fill in his side of the conversation with your insecurities. What do you have to lose really? You are already half way across the world from him; if you believe the connection is that strong, then go for it. If not, then at the very least you can begin to move forward from your confusion.