Single father, 29 years old

[patriotsguyinnc]

Tried everything from dating sites, to bar scene. Wondering if there was any other ideas I may try? Been in 1-3 month relationships ever since the 2002-2009, 7 year relationship I was in with my daughter/son's (she is 8 now and he is 10) mom. I'm just seeing if anyone could offer me some advice. This past year I had an two 2-month relationships

Comments

[lookfar]

Do you have any really solid female friends or mentors? I think you should ask someone who knows you well, what it is that you are doing wrong. Someone who likes you and sees you a lot might be able to see what it is.

[culoslap]

You and I are sailing the same course sans your children. Currently I'm in purgatory with a girl I met at the gym but feel I'm falling the wrong way. Online dating was just too exhausting anymore. Crafting your sales pitch to a woman to only be ignore and judged heavily on your pictures. At the bar, I expect nothing and I'm still let down.

What works for me is just going out and doing something, anything. Walking in the park, hanging out with friends/coworkers, take out your kids. Just do something. I know it reeks of platitude but as angelic women can be, they don't fall from the sky and into your life.

[tacit]

Why do your relationships keep fizzling?

[patriotsguyinnc]

They keep fizzling because I guess I want something more serious in the long run and they don't

[tacit]

Most people want long-term relationships; people who don't are very rare. So it seems unlikely that it's because you want something serious and they don't.

It might be that you're trying to pressure them into something serious; even if it's what they want, that's a big turnoff. It's not enough just for you to want something with the person you're with; she has to feel that you're offering her the opportunity to build what she needs, too.

[tigress35]

What age range have you been trying? If you go out with women your age or above, and especially if they also have children, they'll be more sympathetic to you being a father. Many women younger than 30 are going to want to start a family with someone who hasn't had kids before.

[patriotsguyinnc]

Yeah, maybe I'll try women in their 30s

[imfinallyfound]

I would say focus on yourself an your children and love comes when you are least looking for it.

[patriotsguyinnc]

Yeah you are probably right