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[loveandbees]

Honestly, what is so bloody difficult about saying 'hello' or 'goodbye'? Choir Friend is behaving as erratic and weird as usual, but I am becoming less nervous and analytic about his mood swings, and more irritated. We went to the pub last night with a couple of friends after church choir rehearsal; it was a nice night and on the walk home (we

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[ellesieg]

Wow, that's weird. I've met some people who refuse to say "please," "thank you," and "how are you doing?" because they resent the fact that it's expected of them. They would rather be seen as rude and risk alienating people than follow a "script" when interacting with them, and look down on people who are upset by their not using phrases that they see as totally meaningless. Do you think he's like that and is doing it on purpose?

Or is it due to a lack of social skills/understanding of how to behave in social situations? If that's the case then I wonder if anyone has ever sat him down and explained that it's rude. Even if he doesn't personally feel the need to say "hello" and "goodbye," you'd hope he would alter his behavior if he was aware that it hurts people's feelings.

[loveandbees]

It is bloody weird. I'm pretty sure he doesn't realise that he's doing it; he generally appears to be a very polite, well-spoken and nice person, and it would not fit his personality to go out of his way to be rude. I usually am quite good at reading people, but I find him so frustrating because I have NO IDEA what he is thinking. I can't understand why he does it, but I presume it's a lack of understanding.

Anyway, it is incredibly unnerving and it makes me nervous. I have to prepare myself for whatever mood he is going to be in when I see him.