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[in_the_stix]

So, a lot of things have happened in my life in the past year. About 5 months back I got married to my wife. But, to add to that, she's also 7 months pregnant! we had no idea when we got married. But, about 2 months after we got married, we up-rooted and moved to Wyoming. I am currently a student here. It's definitely...a change for me. No one has

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[futurenerdymom]

you say you 'sent her' back to Michigan to be with family - was this a mutual decision? From the way you worded it, it sounds like you forced or at least encouraged her to move away from you. Why is it better for her to be with family while she is pregnant than to be supported by her partner? Maybe I'm overly sensitive to this because I'm currently pregnant, but I can't think of many things that could be worse than being sent away from my husband at a time when I need daily reminders of his commitment to me and to our baby more than anything! It sounds like maybe you are depressed or in shock about your wife's pregnancy? Or about something else? I know this group is about supporting long distance relationships but I can't help but question why you are in a long distance relationship with your pregnant wife, she needs you to be her partner right now. Maybe closing the distance needs to be a priority.

[mixtape__murder]

I'm not pregnant but I agree. I can't imagine being pregnant and being sent half a country away from my partner! OP what exactly happened?

[halafax]

There has to be more to this than that. You sent her away because you cant express yourself? Also how long have the two of you known each other? If she is with you then she has to understand that you have issues expressing yourself.

So I have to wonder like the rest of the posters here, why did you send her to her parents. From my experience when the wife goes back to her family or parents it usually means there is something that is beyond resolving and the time apart is to get things together in order to see if things can be worked out or not.

[mistresskira]

I posted a comment but its not showing up. So that was a waste of a long long comment. I'll summarize.

If I was pregnant I would rather live in a run down shack with my partner than thousands of miles away with family. She's going through physical pain, emotional damage and complete stress because you aren't there.What are you going to do when she has your child? Move them both back? If that was the case she should have never left. You married her, you are the father of the baby, you created this family. You need to step up and either move her back; or transfer to a school over there to be with her.

[in_the_stix]

Well, the biggest thing is, i worked in a steel factory for a while. alot went down in the factory and I left to go back to school. So, sense i left the factory i lost all insurance. And in Wyoming you have to be a resident for 6 months, and we were still michigan residents. So the reason why i sent her home wasnt that i cant talk too well, it was for her medical. Its been recently that we get in some arguments because i dont talk too well. I should have clarified that earlier. Its not that i dont care, my whole life has kinda been more abusive and using than anything. Its only her and few others, who treat me the way someone should. I love her with every bit of my heart, Just talking...doesnt go too well because im more of a kept to myself n distant person...

[mixtape__murder]

Well, you need to work on that. Have you tried writing things down and showing them to her instead of standard-issue talking? That might be easier for you.

As for the insurance stuff, I'm sorry. Is there something keeping you in WY, then, other than school? I can't imagine how scared and alone you both feel :( I hope you figure stuff out

[in_the_stix]

Well, I got accepted to one of the best auto schools, really in the country in my opinion. And she completely supports the decision n all. But that is a good idea writing it down, so that way I could look at it and catch any hiccups out of it haha. and yes, to one of the previous posters, I do have some depression problems, have for years. Don't sleep, don't eat much, the standard for me is what it became. Fill up the truck and go out for a few hour drive.