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[ltxobvious]

Has anyone seen the final scene of Burn After Reading? There's a line that goes something like "Jesus, what a clusterfuck. What have we learned? I guess we learned not to do it again. Fucked if I know what it was we did, but we sure won't do it again." Kind of sums up the current state of my marriage.

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[midnightsreveng]

it was actually easy to follow and now i understand your predicament much better. i was in a similar situation when i was 20 with a girl who wanted to get married and was acting the same exact way. she was a manipulator too. these girls need a ton of attention and always seem to go against the grind. sometimes it's very difficult to REALLY know what's going on in their head, as you can understand to full capacity. the girl that i was seeing was also VERY much my type, and that notion that she was the only one i wanted to see i just simply had to let go. these good qualities will eclipse the solid facts, and you have to maintain your realist approach to this relationship, but of course you can never be cut and dry about it and emotionless, so just keep your head above water with wanting to please her and understanding your military career is more important to you than doing something reckless on a whim

[ltxobvious]

Good points, all. That's almost exactly what I'm thinking now. I agree that shes almost entirely full of shit and just saying she never loved me because it will make it easier for her to deal with if she convinces herself of it. But you're exactly right. Even if she is lying, the fact that she'd say things like this paints of a picture of her character that I don't like. So even if she is just bullshitting me and herself, this doesn't seem like the kind of girl I want to spend the rest of my life with. I'm almost positive that when I'm physically there with her she'll realize how wrong she is, but chances are slim that I'm going to allow her to just pretend this never happened. I fully understand freaking out because we got married so fast and so young, but there's no excuse for the things she's said to me. Even with Brittany, no matter how badly I wanted out I was never cruel about it, and I would never try to claim that I never cared about her, because it would hurt her deeply even though we both would know it was a lie

[shes_x_abrasive]

Hey, I want to talk to youuu, my computer is broken so I havent been able to be on AIM, but hopefully soon. Im sorry that all of this stuff went down, I was going to make some big long comment on here about it, because I had a lot to say, but Ill just talk to you about it when my computer gets back.

[ltxobvious]

Works for me. Hurry up and come back! My typing hand misses you ;)

[pastbreaknpoint]

wowzers, what a pickle youve gotten yourself into my foolish young padawan.

Of course I wasnt there, and didnt hear the conversation, but DONT underestimate the females ability to freak out. She far from home, having doubts about some serious commitments, and could be lashing out at her one and only target, you. I wouldnt rule it out. Things COULD smooth out.

And on the flip side of the coin, she truly could be a cunt bag.

yep, thats it. best of luck.

<3

[ltxobvious]

All true. I actually talked to her today and we made some decent progress. She didnt quite admit that everything she's said was false, but she didnt disagree with me when I told her that its what I think. She said she just got in over her head, we moved too quickly and she couldn't deal with it. She also agreed to actually TALK to me and not just act so cold about the whole thing