The next time someone keeps making self-deprecating jokes about what a bitch and how emotionally immature they are, don't say "aw, honey", but nod and run instead.
I guess I'm not worried about whether or not you made the right decision. Sounds pretty sucky. I hate break ups, period. Hope you're doing okay - even when it makes sense to end something, it still feels rotten, freeing, etc. Take care. Kai
I think part of the human condition is when we feel threatened/hurt...it brings out the ugly in all of us. We've all done it at one time or another. Doesn't make it great we did it, just means we're human.
What I am happy to hear is that you are able to say "this wasn't okay" and that means you are listening to your self care voice. Good on you!
I am sorry things didn't work out, but glad you figured it out early. Much love and kisses!
A friend (actually the one who introduced me to T) once told me one of the best pieces of advice of my life. "If someone tells you who they are, BELIEVE THEM." Our inclination, as you mentioned, is to assuage self doubt and to ego-boost. It took me a long time to learn to not do that. Just believe them. You can even say "thanks for letting me know." They may think you're joking. If they're a non jerk who is just having a moment, they will normally qualify the statement or amend it after you thank them. Those who laugh at your thank-you are the ones to really look out for.
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What I am happy to hear is that you are able to say "this wasn't okay" and that means you are listening to your self care voice. Good on you!
I am sorry things didn't work out, but glad you figured it out early. Much love and kisses!
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Take care, Ese, and although I probably won't see you for a few weeks but A. will be around...
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