The Narrow Bisexual

[luinmir]

Hello again, LJers!

After about fifteen glasses of iced green tea over sushi this past evening, I find myself energized and unable to sleep. Also contributing to my insomnia tonight are thoughts about the conversation that accompanied said sushi. The conversation, at one point, turned to the typically excellent and not-at-all safe-for-work blog

Comments

[reynier]

It sounds like the first and most troubling problem with the article is that it tries to define others' (i.e. readers') sexuality for them. Eff that noise. Otherwise, I think you've got some great counter-example and wonderful phrasing (f.ex. "... because of some quantum-level hetersoexuality-destroying singularity that occurs when balls touch."

In your third to last paragraph you ask some very specific questions which you later say fall into the twilight zones between A, B, C, or D. (<-- lazy typist) Honestly, I think they are specific enough that it's up to the person in question to answer where they fall in A, B, C, or D. In other words, it's not a twilight zone, just part of the constantly changing bell-curve which defines A, B, C, and D - depending on what the person wishes to call their self.

[luinmir]

Oh, I quite agree with your last point. In the end, everyone's identity is their own to declare. The issue is that there are only three established and widely-used words for the points on that spectrum, and that the definitions for those words end up describing only a small population. Thus you can't call yourself a straight gal if you fall in love with another chick. You can't call yourself a lesbian if you want to bone dudes. You, according to the article, can't call yourself bisexual unless you could see yourself settling down and raising cats just as easily with either. It's kind of alienating, and pretty typical of the hair splittingly ridiculous identity politics that are always happening in the queer and queer ally community. (Here is a comic about it.)

Also, the phrase you mentioned may be my favorite combination of words I've ever written. :D