mcdonalds
So, Jeremiah got a job working at McDonalds. He's rather depressed about it. 29 and starting off as crew. But after the first month, they said they'll make him a manager or something.
My parents were very underwelmed to hear he was getting a job there at his age. But I don't know if they realize how hard it is for him.
He was working at Wayne's building cabinets, doing construction, and making good money. But his forman was a dick. His forman would say things like 'That's why your wife left you' and say he's a bad father, and all sorts of other horrible things that had no relevancy to the job at hand (not any truth to them). But Jeremiah sucked it up for 6 months. Then they started getting on his case for being diabetic, and not wanting to let Jeremiah take 5 minutes to deal with his blood sugar at times through out the day.
So Jeremiah finally had to leave that job. He got another job at a cabinet shop, originally suppose to get $10/hr, but after a week his forman was like 'we don't think you're worth 10 and will be paying you 9' and some lies to go with it about how they were gonna hire someone else for $10 but never did. That job went okay, but Jeremiah hurt his shoulder when he was hanging a door and kept asking the forman and such for help, and never got any. So he had to stay home the next day and they fired him.
Jeremiah also got a job doing construction for this one guy who never ended up paying Jeremiah. Jeremiah got really bad sunburn and realize he wouldn't be able to stay at that job and had to leave. But the guy never paid him for the 2 days he was out there. And there wasn't ever any paperwork or anything, so my mom's suggestion to take the guy to court really doesn't help any.
So he's got a job at McDonalds, to at least have an income. And it's close to the house so he doesn't need my car anymore to get to work (he really hated having to depend on my things). Jeremiah just isn't sure what kind of job he could apply for that he might actually get. He's worried about his background, and apparently he got a letter in the mail from Lowes saying the reason they didn't hire him wasn't his background, but his credit rating.
Jeremiah is diabetic. He also used to be homeless. So he'd go to the ER a lot, and has those bills that will never get paid. So his credit rating is terrible. I have no idea how to help that or if there's even any way to do anything about it.
The current idea that Jeremiah and I are working towards is that he'll do his McDonalds job, maybe get a second job if we can figure out what kind of place would hire him, and he will continue to go to his martial arts class. In a few years, with enough of a history in Martial Arts, Jeremiah would love to get a job as a coach, teaching other people MA. And he's really good at that kind of thing. He's taught me and Dona how to fight a lot better, and defend ourselves. I think once we get a steady schedule back in our lives, we'll be trying to host a self defense class or something.
I had switched my hours at McDonalds around so I could see Jeremiah more, plus he was able to support me. Me working til close and him having to get up at 6 in the morning really wasn't meshing well, and his job had a lot more weight than mine. He was paying a lot of the cost for food and all the cost for gas, when we were first dating. Things are a little tough right now while we figure out incomes and stuff. But it's just temporary. He managed to support his family before his wife left him (she's older than him, and was mostly just looking for someone to give her a kid. Her parents divorced when she was younger so she likely always intended to split from Jeremiah and never tried to work their relationship out). He's not an incompetent man. He's a smart guy too. He learns quickly. He just had a crap hand in life, and it's not his fault.
I mean, yeah, sure, I could probably find a guy who's graduating with a degree in engineering or something like that. Jesse was going to. If I stayed with Jesse, I probably would have been able to live as a stay at home mom or something the rest of my life, no worries.
But with Jeremiah, I don't have to worry about being told I'm a horrible broken person who's parents raised her badly. An ADD cocktease because I don't want to blow him in the middle of the woods. Hear compliments about how strong my legs are since I was able to keep him from finger me after he wouldn't stop just from me saying no. (Not that I've gotten the impression that those kinds of thing matters to my mom. Never got me that therapist she promised, and the time I tried to talk to her about it, she just ignored it. So I just kind of gave up there.)
Jeremiah cares about me. He cares about my wishes and wants to help me do whatever I want to do in my life. He wants to take care of me. And not in the creepy way that Jesse and Craig did, where they looked down at me, but in a way where he sees me as an equal. Jeremiah actually thinks I'm a strong person.
And my relationship with Jeremiah is the first one where I'm not using it as a way to stay away from my parents. Like, after I graduate, we plan to move to Dallas or wherever and build a life out there, closer to them. With Jesse, who's parents also lived near Dallas, I was very insistent that any future he and I had together would be far away from my parents.
Being with Jeremiah, I want to be able to appreciate my family and my parents. I just wish they would see that. I don't even know if they want to ever meet Jeremiah. Hopefully they'll realize that if Jeremiah isn't invited for thanksgiving, I won't be coming over either. Oh well.
My parents were very underwelmed to hear he was getting a job there at his age. But I don't know if they realize how hard it is for him.
He was working at Wayne's building cabinets, doing construction, and making good money. But his forman was a dick. His forman would say things like 'That's why your wife left you' and say he's a bad father, and all sorts of other horrible things that had no relevancy to the job at hand (not any truth to them). But Jeremiah sucked it up for 6 months. Then they started getting on his case for being diabetic, and not wanting to let Jeremiah take 5 minutes to deal with his blood sugar at times through out the day.
So Jeremiah finally had to leave that job. He got another job at a cabinet shop, originally suppose to get $10/hr, but after a week his forman was like 'we don't think you're worth 10 and will be paying you 9' and some lies to go with it about how they were gonna hire someone else for $10 but never did. That job went okay, but Jeremiah hurt his shoulder when he was hanging a door and kept asking the forman and such for help, and never got any. So he had to stay home the next day and they fired him.
Jeremiah also got a job doing construction for this one guy who never ended up paying Jeremiah. Jeremiah got really bad sunburn and realize he wouldn't be able to stay at that job and had to leave. But the guy never paid him for the 2 days he was out there. And there wasn't ever any paperwork or anything, so my mom's suggestion to take the guy to court really doesn't help any.
So he's got a job at McDonalds, to at least have an income. And it's close to the house so he doesn't need my car anymore to get to work (he really hated having to depend on my things). Jeremiah just isn't sure what kind of job he could apply for that he might actually get. He's worried about his background, and apparently he got a letter in the mail from Lowes saying the reason they didn't hire him wasn't his background, but his credit rating.
Jeremiah is diabetic. He also used to be homeless. So he'd go to the ER a lot, and has those bills that will never get paid. So his credit rating is terrible. I have no idea how to help that or if there's even any way to do anything about it.
The current idea that Jeremiah and I are working towards is that he'll do his McDonalds job, maybe get a second job if we can figure out what kind of place would hire him, and he will continue to go to his martial arts class. In a few years, with enough of a history in Martial Arts, Jeremiah would love to get a job as a coach, teaching other people MA. And he's really good at that kind of thing. He's taught me and Dona how to fight a lot better, and defend ourselves. I think once we get a steady schedule back in our lives, we'll be trying to host a self defense class or something.
I had switched my hours at McDonalds around so I could see Jeremiah more, plus he was able to support me. Me working til close and him having to get up at 6 in the morning really wasn't meshing well, and his job had a lot more weight than mine. He was paying a lot of the cost for food and all the cost for gas, when we were first dating. Things are a little tough right now while we figure out incomes and stuff. But it's just temporary. He managed to support his family before his wife left him (she's older than him, and was mostly just looking for someone to give her a kid. Her parents divorced when she was younger so she likely always intended to split from Jeremiah and never tried to work their relationship out). He's not an incompetent man. He's a smart guy too. He learns quickly. He just had a crap hand in life, and it's not his fault.
I mean, yeah, sure, I could probably find a guy who's graduating with a degree in engineering or something like that. Jesse was going to. If I stayed with Jesse, I probably would have been able to live as a stay at home mom or something the rest of my life, no worries.
But with Jeremiah, I don't have to worry about being told I'm a horrible broken person who's parents raised her badly. An ADD cocktease because I don't want to blow him in the middle of the woods. Hear compliments about how strong my legs are since I was able to keep him from finger me after he wouldn't stop just from me saying no. (Not that I've gotten the impression that those kinds of thing matters to my mom. Never got me that therapist she promised, and the time I tried to talk to her about it, she just ignored it. So I just kind of gave up there.)
Jeremiah cares about me. He cares about my wishes and wants to help me do whatever I want to do in my life. He wants to take care of me. And not in the creepy way that Jesse and Craig did, where they looked down at me, but in a way where he sees me as an equal. Jeremiah actually thinks I'm a strong person.
And my relationship with Jeremiah is the first one where I'm not using it as a way to stay away from my parents. Like, after I graduate, we plan to move to Dallas or wherever and build a life out there, closer to them. With Jesse, who's parents also lived near Dallas, I was very insistent that any future he and I had together would be far away from my parents.
Being with Jeremiah, I want to be able to appreciate my family and my parents. I just wish they would see that. I don't even know if they want to ever meet Jeremiah. Hopefully they'll realize that if Jeremiah isn't invited for thanksgiving, I won't be coming over either. Oh well.