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[luvwmylife]

i'm fed up with guys. The guy that i've liked for four years just got engaged to someone he hasn't been dating for very long. I've been on the verge of crying all day, but i don't think a girl should cry over any boy except her daddy. I dunno. I'm doing a little better after spending an hour in my bible and singing along with hootie and the

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[passionatellama]

Hmmm. Emotions are rough, I'm sorry....I'll pray for you also.
-Rob

O golly gee

[jesusfreak2020]

Heather, my dear love. I love you, remember that. Besides, the engagement is for a year (maybe even longer). If God doesn't want my brother to marry Rhona, He'll make it work out the way He wants it to. Josh is still praying that Rhona is the right girl. I've talked to him about it and it sounds like he still has a slight bit of doubt about it so he said he'll be praying about it. He's also talking to Jeremy and Brody about it (My worship pastor and youth leader). Also, my Dad made them agree to go to pre marriage counseling with Pastor Shonn. It really REALLY irks me though because Shonn said that no one in the church, including him will marry ANYONE who is unsaved. That's a little bit hypocritical if you ask me. I'm not talking about just Josh and Rhona now but, everyone in general. How can you say your a seeker friendly church yet tell people that they can't marry them if they're (1)Pregnant and not married (2) Living together (3)unsaved

Re: O golly gee

[luvwmylife]

if he's having doubts, y would he marry her??? Does he realize that if you get married, that's a commitment that you have to live with the rest of your life? What is he gunna do, get married and then divorce her if it doesn't work out? Why didn't he ask god if she was the one before he proposed? Does he realize it would eventually be a problem to not be married to someone who doesn't share his faith? It might be okay for a while, but how are they gunna raise the kids? Don't you think they would get confused if mommy and daddy had different views of god? How does he even know what he wants in a girl if it's his first girlfriend, i mean, even if he thinks he knows, he has no real experience to put his requirements into action, i mean, it would be diff if they had been dating for a couple years. Is he afraid that no one else will marry him or sumthin? b/c if he would wait a couple years i kno someone who would.... Does he really love her or is he still just in that magical part of the relationship where u don't notice their flaws yet? Or

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[jesusfreak2020]

I said that wrong. he's not having "doubts". I don't know how to explain it. She's coming to church, willingly. I mean, she asks if she can come. That means something. Besides, we're not sure if she was saved in her past and we don't know what will happen in her future. I dunno. About the kids, they'll be raised in church. My parents sat down and talked to them about it and she agreed that that wouldn't even be up for discussion. They will be raised in church. And no, he's not going to just marry her and then divorce her. He was praying that she was the one before he asked her to marry her but,I mean... it's a big decision. I don't blame him for still wondering even if God did give him an answer. Rhona is his second girlfriend. And, not to be mean, but I don't think there is a problem with marrying the first person you go out with if that's what God wants to happen. Heather... they're waiting a year (maybe a year and a half). A lot can happen in that time. Yes, he does love her

Re: O golly gee

[luvwmylife]

you're a sweetheart but i'm still upset. i've really liked him for a long time. o well. i hope he's happy w whatever he does.