Heartbroken and Mending

[lvmybehrs]

What is it a 37 year old gay man can share as his experience as once again a single man?

Especially when it’s only two failed relationships.  All I can say is that this shit with dating is difficult.  You would think especially after my last one that two educated men one at the age of 37 now (me) and the other at 47 that one/we could figure it out.

Comments

[guiser1]

Sending you love... xoxo

[mutantbearman]

Nothing I could write could ease the hurt or to clear up the confusion or to fix it. The answers are inside yourself. I'm sorry to hear you're hurting. The only thing I would say (as a 49 year old bear who's seen more than a few relationships in his day) is to not get so fixed on the outcome that you forget the journey. Honestly, the thing I have learned the most about relationships (this is MY lesson, not necessarily yours) is that it's all about enjoying the ride. Being in the today. Loving what you've got when you've got it. Because all the rest is illusion.

[thesilia]

first, i think that "relationship that has ended" =/= "failed relationship". sometimes relationships end, but that doesn't make them failures. every relationship you have teaches you something, or allows you to teach someone else. and when that transaction has happened, if the person is not meeting you on every level, and challenging you, but honoring your values and only expecting you to compromise on those things that are compromise-able, then it's better to end it.

it is absolutely normal and okay to want companionship, and, totally, totally *HUGS*. but i'm not convinced that there is a "THE ONE" for any of us. there are people we stick with, but they're not the one-and-only-one we could EVER stick with, y'know?

also, *HUGS* some more.