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[lyria_theringer]

I wrote this out the other day, while I was on the bus. I wasn't going to post it, as things may have changed a bit, but I decided to anyway

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[solodancer]

I know this is a really late reply. But I just wanted you to know you're not alone. I've been married for 20 years and lets just say that the last 5 or more have less that "busy" in the sex department. We've talked, we've gone to counseling, I've talked to doctors, I've tried porn, I've tried herbal suplements. Nothing works. I have little or no sex drive and it doesn't seem like there is anything to be done about it

[boriel]

part of a low sex drive in women is emotional - hubby and i went through the entire gamut of sex related arguements - he has a high drive, i have a low one. if i didnt do the obligatorly sex, he sulked. if i did, i felt like crap and got resentful, which made it worse for the next time. we've always been able to talk about things, except for some reason we/I couldnt talk about intimacy - i was too shy, too embarrassed, too hurt... but it all came out one day and since then, we've discussed it many times. my husband can have sex even if he feels like crap and is almost dying. i cant. we've both have had bouts of being so sick/injured that the other has to wait - up to 6 weeks - before even attempting to do it again... and this last bit with my chemo has been hell in that department. but we got it sorted out and i've found out that hubby likes to grab me at times, not because he wants it, but because he likes the chase. he's also told me that all men will take as much as they can talk you in to (said with a cheeky grin on his face) and