Thoughts on being active and being talented - Burning the Good Enough files.

[lyssabard]

Last night, I commented in one of thewronghands's posts that she made doing all of the outdoor activities that I had thought out of reach or beyond my abilities seem so easy and reasonable and possible. Just...train and do it. No big deal. It's been with me this morning, and I'm questioning my own assumptions there and realize that a part of me still sees

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[unmutual]

Awesome. :)

[lyssabard]

I know, right? :)

[unmutual]

Abso-freaking-lutely! I've been working hard on the "enoughness" thing and it's so motivating to see other people doing the same.

[lyssabard]

It's going to take time, but I am trying to just take a more active awareness and engagement of my inner critic and all the little memos it likes to send to me....then set them on fire in the wastebasket. (If parts of that aren't genuinely useable information.)

Life's too short.

[animelily]

Childhood is such a weird time in that kids think the whole world is their own school, their own class, their own family. That if they can't make it with their classmates or family that they can't make it anywhere. It takes adulthood to realize there is a much larger world out there. That even if there are people who don't like you at school or at home, doesn't mean there won't be people out in the rest of the world that do like you. That if you're not tall enough or coordinated enough to dunk the basket when everyone else can, you'll never grow tall enough or learn how. Kids don't have that sort of forward thinking. (One of the reasons why I love the "It Get's Better" campaign.) Not saying you're a kid and you haven't been capable of forward thinking, but this sort of stuff starts this way and sometimes never really gets addressed. I'm glad you're addressing it

[lyssabard]

The funny thing is, the heights thing came on gradually--not sure how that happened. it's weird.
And most of this was internalized and I wasn't even aware it was really going on, til i started thinking of it last night. I have worked not to be one of those people who define their lives by high school and I think I've gotten through a lot of those old messages, simply because I am not the same person anymore.

But sometimes, the little messages are encoded deep within and insidious. They catch me off guard in a "I didn't know that was here!" kinda way. So it goes.

Moving--it is a constant practice.

[elenbarathi]

Yay, awesome goals! Go for it; sounds like a whole lot of fun!

I have had about as much adventure as my body could withstand, plus a little more, and still it wasn't a fraction of the adventure I would have liked to have. Like going to Antarctica, or the Gulf of Alaska, or the North Sea - riding from Vladivostok to Kiev, with a long detour for Lake Baikal - learning to kite-surf, pole-dance, parasail, do Parkour; getting a black sash in Kung fu, climbing Khan Tengri in the Tien Shan, seeing a snow-leopard in the wild, becoming Queen By Right Of Arms of the Kingdom of An Tir.... I would have liked to be badass enough (and rich enough) to do all those exciting things, but I just wasn't. That's a little disappointing, but not a lot disappointing, because really there is plenty of adventure to be had at a lower cost in both money and danger or hardship.

*hugs* I hope you haz a blast!

[lyssabard]

iding from Vladivostok to Kiev, with a long detour for Lake Baikal

I WILL ADD THIS TO THE LIST!! CAN WE GO DO THIS?! YOU CAN COME WITH ME...SOMEHOW.

[thewronghands]

I think this is fantastic and brave, and I would be happy to be your adventure partner for some of it. I know we've talked about some of this before, but when I was a kid I never thought of myself as particularly athletic or talented at this kind of thing. It's only as an adult that I have realized that, hey, a lot of the time this can be really fun! And fun makes it way less daunting to just get on out there and enjoy.

[lyssabard]

You have both a very welcoming and inclusive attitude towards what you do and, at the same time, a great ability to assess how it might be best for a person with x experience and issues may go about doing y thing. Together, it makes things seem doable and approachable in easy steps. And for myself, that's helpful

[chiisai_d]

Wanna walk with me sometime around the Baltimore Zoo? They close around 4-4:30pm.
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~ Cindy

[lyssabard]

That might work for a weekend plan, but as things are up in the air for a bit with the job stuff, let me get back to you?
Also, will you be my Walking Dead buddie this year? (Want to come over and watch it?)