dreams and screams

[macabre_grrl]

I had a weird dream where I was pregnant, and all I could think was, "I REALLY don't want to be pregnant now. No no no." I was not excited. My life was just flashing before my eyes, my heart sinking fast. Everyone else was excited and I was doing a bad job of pretending to be excited. Also, "Who's the dad? I'm four months along...who?...I

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[cailin_t]

allegra? pretty, but annoyingly that major allergy medication. i always wanted to name my first girl the species name of blue birds, sialis. OH WELL. (if you don't know, that a prominent viagra-esque med, lol.. ugh).

[macabre_grrl]

Oh well. I'll have to determine the risk of teasing when the time comes. Sialis is worse though.

[cailin_t]

oh, definitely, sialis is 100% no longer an options, sigh. i definitely want it to be something bird-related, but most really, really do not work. i possibly like ardea (genus of certain herons and egrets).

[macabre_grrl]

Weird, my other chosen name was Arden, from "As You Like It". But then there's Elizabeth Arden.

[knowmebymylaugh]

Why is "metalhead" in that list? James is (or was) great boyfriend material! (in that he treats ladies well, not that he would be a good match for you).

[macabre_grrl]

I don't want to date James OR a metalhead!

[knowmebymylaugh]

Sure, all I was saying was that James is a good example of an awesome guy who is a metalhead and that there could be others like him who are more suited for your womanly needs, so putting "metalhead" in the same category as "abusive" or "conservative" may be unwarranted.

[macabre_grrl]

I wasn't really equating metalhead with the other two...more of an oscillation between serious and quirky. Like I don't want a football addict or a really hardcore video gamer either, or someone who isn't a feminist. Good luck with the last one.

[squire_jons]

I had a dream that I was riding in the Wells Fargo stagecoach with my boss' wife, and she gave me a handjob.

:-/

[macabre_grrl]

Yeah, and I could unzip my pregnant belly and check on him occasionally.

[boigrrrlwonder]

Maybe it's because I had a child young, but I don't really believe that you can be sure that a partner will stick if you have a baby - married or not. Some guys just won't step up, even if they said they would - even if they were the ones who convinced you to have the baby to begin with. I think us who will have the pregnancy should just have children when we want to have children - and when we feel ready to have children, regardless of what those around us will do.

[macabre_grrl]

Yeah, that does float in my head a lot, the fact that he might ditch. I like to think that if I've picked my man carefully, I'll know what he's about...but humans don't work like that. Ultimately, I really hate the idea of being a single mom, because I know I need backup and our society isn't set up for lots of communal living and childcare.

A big fuck-you to all the unimpregnable guys who want kids in theory and then are like, oh, I don't want to play this anymore, let's go do something else!

[boigrrrlwonder]

I like to think that if I've picked my man carefully, I'll know what he's about...but humans don't work like that.

That and its kind of insulting to all those single mamas for people to believe that if only they had done X (picked their partner carefully, worked harder on keeping the relationship together, whatever) that they wouldn't be a single mama, so it's good you know that people don't work like that.

Communal living. It's appealing until I meet 90% of the people drawn to communal living and then it's "No thanks."

[macabre_grrl]

I hear you about the the kinds of people who seem to want communal living. I wish society as a whole were set up for it and it was the norm, and then we wouldn't have to deal with a certain subset of people who want it. But then, we'd have some other kind of dysfunctions with the whole community knowing all your business.

I'm recently reading Michael Kimmel's book "The Gendered Society" and I just got done with the part that debunks the whole "normal family" model from the 1950s, and how that was really a very brief style that couldn't survive for very long, nor would we want it to. At the time, the isolated nuclear family was supposed to provide people with everything that is better provided by more social, communal living: things like childcare, income, housekeeping, etc. The pressure on all the "players" to fill their roles got to be too much...and the kids rebelled and we got the 1960s.

[snacks84]

Allegra? Will she sooth my allergys, and/or runny nose? At lest your not thinking Placenta previa that is what a friend named her kid. Or chlamydia, Vagisil. My wife and i were talking names, my last name is savage so naturally I wanted to name my first boy Ian and first girl Ima savage.

[macabre_grrl]

If that allergy med is pulled from the shelves by the time I reproduce, that's my green light. So unfortunate. Musical notation had it first in the form of allegro. NO FAIR.

[macabre_grrl]

wait, she did NOT name her kid Placenta Previa. You're joking. Right? RIGHT?

[snacks84]

Dead serious, she is the cutest little one. She is like four years old now. Have you seen the movie Waiting w/ Dane cook, he guy from the Mac commercials, Andy milikonacas or whatever?