Comments | madkingludwig: Open Relationships

madkingludwig

Open Relationships

Mar 18, 2008 20:47

You want to know why honesty is the best policy?
Because if poor Elliot had just copped to his wife and been straight with her,it could have all been like this...:
http://www.cnn.com/2008/POLITICS/03/18/paterson.affairs/index.html

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tristan_moore March 19 2008, 01:15:59 UTC

Open relationships aren't for everyone but if the couple can handle them responsibly it can sometimes boost the quality of a marriage. To each their own way of life.

madkingludwig March 19 2008, 01:22:06 UTC

I agree. I'll also say that every marriage is different. There is no "one brand/type" that suffices.
Let's face it, you know marriages where it's OK to flirt with other people and marriages where it isn't.
You know marriages where either person can talk to old significant others and it's OK, and you know ones where it isn't.
Everyone writes and negotiates the rules to where everyone is safe and gets what they need. It's when you lie that the negotiations break down, faith is broken, and failure is certain. No one can make an adult decision to stay or leave, negotiate or bargain, unless you start with honesty.

tristan_moore March 19 2008, 07:22:19 UTC

Our marriage vows completely deviated from traditional marriage vows. We never swore 'till death do us apart' we made oaths to treat each other with dignity, respect and honesty. I refuse to live in a relationship that I'm not happy in. At the same time a relationship obviously has seasons and takes a lot of work to keep sparky. Nonetheless, sex is a very intricate part of any marriage and relationship. Our country seems to treat sex as if it were a drug addiction whereas it is vital to human health mentally, spiritually and physically. With that said, obviously, it shouldn't be abused. In a realtionship, if the sex isn't there and it isn't mutually satisfying the marriage will suffer. To that end, if I ever got to a point where I couldn't satisfactorily please my husband I wouldn't bitch if he sought his needs elsewhere just with the caveat that there were mutual agreements and boundaries in place. (protection, complete honesty in whats going on and preferrably STD testing as I am completely STD free and prefer to remain that way ( ... )

airsucker March 19 2008, 02:33:28 UTC

OMG&G, people acting like adults! What ever will we do?

Golden Oldie from the Clinton Era: ergogrrl March 19 2008, 05:09:17 UTC

Obvious disclaimer: I didn't write this, I'm just perpetuating it ( ... )

Re: Golden Oldie from the Clinton Era: aerospcgrl March 19 2008, 12:24:05 UTC

...Reposting this because it made me smile. :)