Yeah they are crazy. My Ex Boyfriend was 1st Generation Viet. Meaning his parents didn't even speak English. They HATED my guts because I wasn't Viet and they feared to death he would marry me.
Granted they only had Boys in the family except for mom so I didn't see how they would have treated their daughters if they had any. But frankly I felt sorry of their kids. They were overprotective, mean, and crazy strict. But you've covered all the bases.
We actually ended up breaking up mainly because of his family. I couldn't take them talking about me anymore. I couldn't take how they treated the kids ( Brian was 19 but he had 3 younger brothers ) What gets me is they would turn around be like oooh we love you. And I would hear my name in every conversation and Brian would translate for me. Never nice things lol.
Haha, yeah I forgot that part. The fakeness. My mom often talks shit about people in Vietnamese, then is totally fake nice to them. Both of these things occur WHILE THE PERSON IS IN THE ROOM within 5 minutes of each other.
You should be glad you got out of the whole situation.
omg yes. my boyfriend is chinese and his parents give him shit ALL THE TIME about EVERYTHING. i can't imagine what it would be like to grow up in that environment.
It sucks that you have to be back home right now. I mean, financially that's understandable, but the dynamics are just toxic. My mom offered me to stay with her rent-free when I was going through a tough time. I didn't take her up on it because I knew what a replay of childhood it would be if I were there. Some parents are just like what you describe regardless of ethnic background (I've seen it in my family). It may be worse in Asian communities; I don't know. It might just be that the white families where that happens, you don't hear about it because, well, people don't talk about their internal family shit so much in public.
Anyway, good energy to you, and I hope you can get out of there soon enough to save your sanity.
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Granted they only had Boys in the family except for mom so I didn't see how they would have treated their daughters if they had any. But frankly I felt sorry of their kids. They were overprotective, mean, and crazy strict. But you've covered all the bases.
We actually ended up breaking up mainly because of his family. I couldn't take them talking about me anymore. I couldn't take how they treated the kids ( Brian was 19 but he had 3 younger brothers ) What gets me is they would turn around be like oooh we love you. And I would hear my name in every conversation and Brian would translate for me. Never nice things lol.
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You should be glad you got out of the whole situation.
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i can't imagine what it would be like to grow up in that environment.
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My mom offered me to stay with her rent-free when I was going through a tough time. I didn't take her up on it because I knew what a replay of childhood it would be if I were there. Some parents are just like what you describe regardless of ethnic background (I've seen it in my family). It may be worse in Asian communities; I don't know. It might just be that the white families where that happens, you don't hear about it because, well, people don't talk about their internal family shit so much in public.
Anyway, good energy to you, and I hope you can get out of there soon enough to save your sanity.
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