annoying, nosy mother-in-law

[magnolia_5]

~*Now, normally I do not get up at 7am and starting blogging here, but I am totally irritated and I need to vent on this issue. (Of course I was up feeding Jaden anyway, but there is no way I will sleep now).  So here's the thing:  we got an envelope in the mail yesterday that was addressed to Paul, which came from his family (specifically: his

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[amaryllis]

It's really hard to be the daughter-in-law. My MIL, though well meaning, is very competitive with me, even though she may not be aware of it, because she's just mad in love with her son, and well, she's not the only woman in his life anymore.

I can't say whether or not you are being overly sensitive, as I've found myself in that position many times, and looking back on it later, sometimes I have, sometimes I was perfectly right in feeling that way. But it really doesn't matter. The fact is, Paul and Jaden are YOUR family, not hers.

I'm sure her intentions were good and she's just excited, but I know how you feel. My in-laws wanted to be at the hospital when Kelli gave birth and were upset when we said no.

[magnolia_5]

Gosh, I would have had to draw the line too with that. It's hard enough with an adoptive birth.

I guess just most mothers-in-law can be irritating to a degree, right?!

[magnolia_5]

Thanks Alex. I know, it *is* an emotional time right now, and not to mention that we have adopted him, which was also a crazy and very emotional process. As I said before, she seems to lack the respect for me and for us, therefore acts inappropriately often. I try hardest to ignore her, but it would be like ignoring a train wreck that happened while you were at the train crossing. Impossible.

[galexiegirl]

Aw Dana....that stinks. Well, I guess I agree with what everyone else has said. The incident is annoying, but at least was motivated out of love. We don't know all the other horrible dumb things she's done, so I'm sure to you it's WAY more than mildly annoying. And as beansbouf said, it's her way of mothering (s-mothering

[blue_malibu]

I would have been pissed about that card from the MIL, too. I totally agree with what beansbouf said. Anyway, I think your MIL should have talked to you first before sending that card (not that she seems like the kind of person that would do that, but in a perfect world ... ) YOU should be the one sending the Father's Day card from Jaden to Paul!!! I'm glad Paul totally understands how you feel about the situation -- it's good that he can see how she is, and is on your side! Hey, at least she doesn't live closeby!

[magnolia_5]

Oh, I know it. When we lived in Sydney, I was going to lose my mind. She constantly would come over and tell us what to do with the house and the yard (and everything else too). Nightmare. You marry for love, though you also get the in-laws along with it!