If everyone cared and nobody lied...

[maiden_mist]

I have a major problem: when a guy likes me, it's me who doesn't like him....>_> First, it happened with a guy who was my classmate in the 9th grade...we gradually became friends, we started to hang out, but I only saw him as a friend. But he...I think he liked me. He once took my hand, at his bday party. The only problem was that he didn't attract

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[suomigoth]

That really is so truly frustrating. And it will happen much more in your life. It's always very problematic when a male friend you see as nothing but a friend, suddenly starts to have feelings for you. you don't want to give them any hope, but because they are in love, they can see anything as a sign that gives them hope.
But whatever you do, don't you ever start something with them in the hope something might grow! That doesn't work, believe me...

Oh and you better brace yourself for all the hotties at university ;) Though you'll probably end up falling head over heels for some doctor already working in the hospital when you're there as an intern, and he's you teacher there so he can't show anything, and.. and.. and... *continues as story fit for any doctor's series*

[maiden_mist]

=)) yeah, but hopefully I'll already have a stable relationship by the time I start practicing in hospitals. :P

"But whatever you do, don't you ever start something with them in the hope something might grow! That doesn't work, believe me..."- Thanks for that. Because I thought about it. Being single so far, I have been tempted to make a compromise...but then I realized that I don't want to make any serious compromise when it comes to my heart..such as being with a guy whom I only see as a friend.

[weirdsister_fis]

I've actually talked to my boyfriend about this. I've also noticed that when i was just being friendly towards a guy, they started to think i was interested in them beyond friendship.
According to my boyfriend it's the whole hunter mentality guys have. It's as if a nice girl is the same as a green light to hunt her.

But i agree with Suomi, don't ever start a relationship with someone you don't feel love for. If it isn't there to start with, it will never come.
He has to give you butterflies in your stomach and/or wobbly knees!

[maiden_mist]

"He has to give you butterflies in your stomach and/or wobbly knees!" - You tell me! :)) I agree with this 100%. Thank God I'm not the only one who thinks like this.
I believe that no matter how much i though about it, my heart would have eventually said no to starting a relationship even if I didn't like the guy....
Have you talked to Hugo about your teaching problem too? I think it could help. :)