The intricacies of online dating sites

[mainpa]

All right then, prepare for some insecurity of the MA sort....

Comments

[sfeley]

That alone doesn't seem creepy, at least to me; I've told people "Let's do lunch" as a pretty quick followup to meeting them online. I suspect different people have different paces. Remember, most people are on there to get dates, and the male mentality is pretty direct about getting from Point A to Point B. (Though calling you a "tease" is both uncalled-for and stupid.)

But you should work within your comfort level. I don't think it's wrong to say "I'd rather chat for a while and get to know you first, then we'll see." If a guy has a problem with that and stops responding -- well, at that point you know everything you need to know about that guy.

[mainpa]

Thank you - I needed a male perspective on this. I think what creeped me out was him pressing the issue, after I told him I didn't have any idea what my plans were. As if what I was saying didn't matter, that he just had to keep asking for me to say yes.

But anyway. Got another message, and this one was nice. *grins*

Hope SF is fun.

[cinemafreak]

Realize first and formost that you are in charge. Don't make the guys jump through hoops, per se. But make them talk to you online for a day or so. Then, when you are comfy, move it to real time (phone). Maybe get a skype account and number, and talk to them that way. They won't have your real number - although that would be for extra security, it isn't needed much. Then, when you feel comfortable, then meet them. I did the online deal a bit, and it can work. I had a few gals jump and give me their number within the first conversation, but that made them seem desparate.
Like I strated, remember that YOU are in control.

happy hunting.

[mainpa]

*nods* I'm definitely going with my comfort level here - and if they are too impatient - it's their loss.

Thanks. We must chat soon.