State of the Katje: relationship edition

[mamagotcha]

A lot of my time and energy lately have been going to figuring out how to manage and ease my health issues, but that's only part of my life right now. Here's first of a series of posts about other aspects, and ideas about how I'd like to change/develop them over the next year.

Comments

[mh75]

I think the biggest thing that would help my relationship with my parents would be for them to be more regularly accessible, without actually living with us. (Right now they are far away and hard to visit, except for the month or so that they live with us. Neither really works well for me.) I don't know how to accomplish that, though.

I mention it mostly because this pulling back from on-line activity is always problematic to me because it is through on-line forums that I manage to maintain the relationships I have with people who live remotely.

One of the things i miss about having LJ be active is that I found it to be a much more real, and deep, online conversation than any of the current options.

[mamagotcha]

Part of my problem is that I don't think I had a very good relationship with my parents, and while I think my dad got along well with his folks, my mom definitely did NOT with her mother (her father was killed when she was a pre-teen, and her stepfather died when I was little). Now both of mine are gone, and while I know I can't beat myself up over things I cannot change, I CAN try to step it up for the next generation.

I hear you about online connections! I love that I can be a part of the lives of my friends in Davis and KC, and my family in other states.

[mamagotcha]

I'll try to remember to come back and share here, if I find anything definitive. But I think you are already on the right track, just by caring about it, and that we both will be fine. Big hugs; I hear how much this is stressing you out, and I have faith that we both will come to a place of peace with our adult offspring.