Relationships

[mancerbear]

Sometimes, just sometimes, I get frustrated with my relationship. In particular my partner hiding things from me. I accept that he has a right to his privacy, and I don't begrudge that. What I do have a problem with is that he seems to be so damned secretive about his phone. I reached for it today to check the time and he snatched it away from me.

Comments

[restaurantkiler]

I think honesty is crucial in a relationship but having that balance of trust is equally important. I am notoriously curious so I have to actively stop myself from opening emails and checking phones. Sometimes I don't. But we do tend to talk about everything. Don't let the thoughts fester. Have the conversations that will keep that trust going. I am inherently selfish and want Paul all to myself so as long as we both have that same understanding and have done since we have been in our relationship it's not an unreasonable request. I hope things get better.

[darkwing22]

You need to talk to him about it. Its a hard thing to do, but you need to understand his side of his story.

I know that sometimes, i dont like letting Steve into parts of my life; and my phone. There are some friends from the past that i get text messages from whom i know he wouldn't like me keeping in contact with; but there still my friends; so i just keep it to my self when i get a text message from them.

With the pup training - to ME, that has always been something sexual in the gay world. I guess when your in a head space with that much control, you can sometimes forget other things and be in the moment. Have you explored it with him? while i don't know Jyan very well, i know he's open to experiment and im sure he would welcome and apprentice trainer.

its important to have clear guidelines as to what each of you want; and to talk about everything.

and most importantly - Dont let it worry you! Just talk to him

Hugs.

if you ever want to talk about it.. you know how to contact me.

[sad_frog]

I don't know what to say, but I feel I can't read this without saying something. Love and hugs to you from afar.