Mom and money

[margaretc]

I have reached the proverbial end of the rope with my mom... I just put this on my mundane facebook page (locked to family and a few very close friends):

For the 8th or 9th time this year, my mom has had to overdraw her checking account to buy food, because the foodstamps aren't covering enough. She's barely making rent + utilities, even with the

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[pedropadrao]

You may want to consider setting up a bank account that requires both her signature plus that of another person.

[redsquirrel]

I think you're missing the point of this post. While the money mismanagement is part of the overall stress, her mom does it because she doesn't have enough money for food on her current income. Food stamps aren't enough and the rest of her income goes to rent and utilities. Bryn gives her all she can afford but that's still not enough. So it's a choice between going hungry or going homeless because Bryn, though she loves her mother, has neither the physical nor emotional space to take her in. She's quite understandingly reaching the end of her rope with the situation and has no idea what to do next.

If nothing else, lots of hugs are in order.

[redsquirrel]

{{{{{HUGS

[ymasen]

(((((big hugs)))))

[sirinde]

*hugs* I'm sorry.

[3_purple_irises]

Is it possible to get some more money from your brother to help out your mom? Linda is his mother too and should have some more financial responsibility since he lives further away and can't physically help like you can.

Sending good and postitive thoughts your way. {{HUGS!}}

[margaretc]

That'd be nice, wouldn't it? He isn't working, he's being a stay-at-home-dad, so his wife thinks she controls all of their money. And she doesn't like my mom; thinks we should have 'fixed' her problems a long time ago (but didn't actually say HOW).
So he's reluctant to ask her for more money to send to my mom.