Comments | mariam11: Overwhelmed.

mariam11

Overwhelmed.

Feb 02, 2009 15:26

I'm feeling so overwhelmed right now by birthing choices.
Having your last baby is a lot of pressure. You want to do it right. You don't want a single regret.

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crystal76 February 3 2009, 00:09:00 UTC

Since I wasn't around when your kids were born, how was it the first three times? I think Lauren is the only one that I feel no regrets at all. I know exactly why Kaelyn and Cole's birth experiences weren't what I wanted but I am not going to post a novel in your comments! ;)

Is the midwife/practice you picked causing the pressure or is it something you are just overwhelmed with regardless?

mariam11 February 3 2009, 01:49:10 UTC

My first 3 were all hospital births. I have no regrets because I have healthy babies and at the times of the births I didn't know better, kwim? I had Kyler when I was young and it was a totally typical hospital, epidural birth. No complications, other than we didn't know how fast I dilate and DH missed his birth as a result. He was out eating and shopping with mil. But that's another story ( ... )

crystal76 February 3 2009, 03:28:40 UTC

I think if I had been in NM for Cole's birth it would have been completely different. Although I liked my OB, it wasn't the same as my midwife. Then there was the whole insurance issue so if I wanted a midwife I would have to pay 3k - 4k. I know it shouldn't have to be a money issue but that played into it.

Anyway, I can totally understand how hard it is to create a good, trusting relationship with a new medical provider when pregnancy is involved.

Shit, that wait is crazy. Do you have the guts to ask if that is a normal wait time? And isn't it kind of a long drive too?

After Lauren's birth I totally know that I could have a homebirth. It was just that pesky money issue. Stupid Aetna HMO.

crystal76 February 3 2009, 03:29:12 UTC

Damn, I meant to reply to your previous comment. Oh well.

mariam11 February 3 2009, 03:53:12 UTC

Money is an issue for us as well, it's dumb to say that a big part of my leaning towards swallowing another hospital birth is that it would be free but it's true. Having a homebirth would mean paying 100% out of pocket, and that money could go towards other things, like our vacation or into our house ( ... )

crystal76 February 3 2009, 04:33:00 UTC

Kaelyn: http://crystal76.livejournal.com/6247.html... )

crystal76 February 3 2009, 04:33:40 UTC

Dude, I swear I am hitting reply... I'm not normally a comment dummy!