Comments | maribou: I wrote another thing, few weeks back

maribou

I wrote another thing, few weeks back

Jul 27, 2016 20:26

It's pretty heavy going but I'm glad I wrote it.

http://ordinary-gentlemen.com/2016/06/16/introretrospective-ii-violence-family-and-loss/

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gement July 28 2016, 21:47:10 UTC

I am so glad you could write this, and so proud of you. I've thought of you in a concerned sort of way since you first announced stuff was going on a couple years ago, but I'm crap at initiating contact, so here we are.

It occurs to me that if I knew you were carrying all this around, I might never have suggested you read my extremely fucked up fiction. I'm glad you did, and I'm glad you liked it, but wow.

maribou July 28 2016, 21:56:14 UTC

Well, and see that's part of the problem for me, right? I don't want people figuring out what I might or might not want to read. I'm really GLAD to have read your fiction, which I love, not just like. And just in general, there's a lot of stuff I find *helpful* and *cathartic* that any well-meaning person might reasonably assume I would hate (cf that Bear and Monette book that I was disturbed to have accidentally led to you to when you found it rather horrid). I think a lot of my resistance to being vocal about my experiences is that we have so so many theoretical ideas about sexual abuse survivors, and physical abuse survivors - we all do, even those of us who are survivors - and when you've spent so much of your life working to be invisible, putting yourself into the category of someone who has This Set of Baggage seems... unthinkable. Of course, the upside, the side that will keep me from getting censored, is that no one totally knows what will set another person off anyway - I mean, my own sister sent me a book set in the same ( ... )