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marikkita

Writer's Block: Significant Change

May 30, 2009 09:39

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anonymous May 31 2009, 06:22:36 UTC

I'm going to tell you a secret. He didn't change. Not during the relationship and not after it. He did somethings that were not typical for him but they didn't amount to change. You changed for him. You tried to be the person you thought he needed. He's the same person he has always been. It's time for you to be okay with being the same person you've always been. You are a fantastic person. You just aren't the person he needs. That's okay. He is not the person you need either.

Take a deep breath, realize he isn't for you, and walk away. I know it's hard but it's time. Maybe in the future you will be friends. And that will be enough. But I must warn you, if you keep pushing him, you will lose him forever.

marikkita June 2 2009, 17:08:07 UTC

you speak as if you know him and me and how our relationship went down. Can I ask who you are? I know him and I know that he did change... even now. And I'm not the only one who says he changed. His family and our friends say that he has changed. Everybody changes, it's part of life. Part of me changed when I met him and part of him changed when he met me. In fact, he has changed a lot in the last month since he started hanging out with with his ex and his new girl. And once again, I'm not the only one that has noticed. But since i'm the recent ex-girlfriend, I'm not allowed to say anything because it will just be considered jealousy or whatnot.

anonymous June 3 2009, 06:42:24 UTC

Gene has confided in me about your relationship and how it "went down." I know his perspective on it. Gene and I have been friends for quite a while. Before you became a couple, you weren't friends. You met and then were together. You don't know him outside of a relationship. Your idea of who Gene is is fogged ( ... )

marikkita June 3 2009, 08:22:29 UTC

What i mean about him changing in the last month is that he is now acting like a jerk and he says things that hurt me, and not by simply talking about the new girl but he says mean things targeted AT me. He is the one that said wanted to stay friends and several times has stood me up to hang out with the new girl and his ex. I don't have a problem with that as long as he has the courtesy to let me know that he's blowing me off preferably in advance so that I might make other plans ( ... )

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nanasita June 2 2009, 04:40:12 UTC

Not sure about all that. Having known him his whole life...he HAS changed. The entire last 2 years of his life have been about change, about growing up and finding himself. He isn't there yet. One day he will be and he will be a good person. Right now he is going thru what is commonly called a "selfish phase". Not a problem. Growing up is rough. Everyone has growing pains. You are far more mature than him, and know what you want out of life and where you want to go. He doesn't have that yet. Not that that is bad. But it hurts you that he isn't on the same pathway as you. Someone else IS, and when you find him, you will look at Gene fondly and with love, but no longer pine for something that was not meant to be. And no, I am not in any way being insulting to him. It just IS. Everyone's life unfolds in a different way.

nanasita June 3 2009, 04:29:15 UTC

I disagree. He is not in a "selfish phase." He just isn't right for Maria and he saw that.

My last bit... gearssnipe June 3 2009, 21:11:41 UTC

Gene was my best man. He has changed since that day. He has changed since dating Tori. He has changed since dating Maria. Everyone changes. It's a fact of life backed up by society ( ... )

athespiangirl June 9 2009, 07:36:04 UTC

So after reading this...I'm jumping in. Change is inevitable. I've known Maria since middle school and I've known Gene since 2nd grade, and I've seen many changes in his life. This most recent one, I am the most disappointed, but I'm sure I've been through the same phase and have disappointed my own friends. It was even before he dated Maria. After the prior relationship ended when *you know who you are* cheated on him, and what not, he finally had that chance to be on his own. Which is great. And because of that, yes, you could say he is in that "selfish phases". Gene is a big boy, and I wish him the best in his new relationship because I love him like a brother and whatever makes him happy, will make him happy. What disappointed me the most was he was the reflecting the same actions that he vehemently criticized back in high school. Anyway, bedsheeteyes and anonymous are clearly the same person (you're a moron), and, aren't you too old to be reading your ex's ex-girlfriends blog and commenting on it as two different people ( ... )