Thats one hell of a situation... something I certainly do not look forward to when I have my big day considering my family alone could fill a highschool stadium.
Anyways, I think you should invite the people who mean the most to you. If someone gets offended about not being invited to your wedding, then throw a (seriously)cheap party afterwards for the people you wanted to invite, but just could't due to space and cash. I think most people would understand. At least I like to hope they would.
Another thing to consider is to make the invites very specific and have RSVP'ing the exact number of people they bring. I'm not up on the wedding ettiquite or anything, so I have no idea how that whole thing works.
So, just look at each name on the list and think of one of your favorite memories with that person, if it takes you longer than 10 seconds to think of something, cross them off the list.
first off, remember that its your wedding, so if you really dotn want people leaching the free food, feel free not to invite them.
i say go in this order of cutting:
1. friends you havent seen in a long time (no you DONT have to invite everyone youve ridden on the bus with!)
2. co-workers and your moms co-workers. co-workers dont generally become offended unless you are working with someone that was already your best friend.
3. distant family that you know would honestly not give two shits. for instance, i have cousins that i wouldnt invite because im sure they never think about me, so why would i spend the time inviting them?
4. peoples children. adult-only weddings are popular when you havent got money.
5. also anyone that has no idea that you were even dating the same girl for 69789 years.
that should save you some cash, and most likely wont offend anyone.
remember that this is YOUR wedding and if people get all huffy, IGNORE IT.
oh btw, when it comes to invites, the names you list on the invites are the only ones that should be showing up, hands down, it is how etiquette works.
if you wrote nadia & guest, that means i would bring ME and a DATE. if you invite mr. & mrs. frank wilholt (assuming thats your uncle haha) they really should only bring themselves, not a whole group.
and stay strong about the money thing, if people give you attitude let them know you couldnt afford to invite the entire world, and that you are sorry.
Wedding Blues
anonymous
July 17 2006, 21:14:11 UTC
Ok, It's Jessica---Since I'm not cool and I don't have a livejournal, I have to be anonymous....anyway.... I totally know what you're going through, especially since I had friends that I hadn't spoken to in at least two years getting pissed off at me because I didn't invite them to our wedding. I actually had to tell people, "No, I'm sorry, but you won't be invited because we can't afford to have 200 people at our wedding." And it sucked, and I still feel bad about it (which I shouldn't, and neither should you). I didn't invite my mom's cousins, who get invited to EVERY wedding in our family, because I have no clue who those people are. Dan and I knew every damn person at our wedding, and had a close relationship with each of them.... (except for my aq roommate's date, whom I let her bring because she knew no one else at the wedding). We had to tell people not to bring their kids (not a popular decision with the child-bearing folk, but truth be told, I didn't want the damn rugrats running around my wedding cake anyway)... There
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Becky's advice: Don't invite people that would only know you were getting married if they were invited. Don't allow people to bring kids or guests-unless they won't know anyone else at the wedding. But seriously, no kids. Really emphasize the no guest thing. It's been done, you won't be an ass. :) Have your friends double as assistants at the wedding. (Sound, set-up etc) That would help with costs, I think? You could send out things after the wedding. Like, ur wedding picture on a little card saying "Liz and Marty were married amoungst close friends and family on blah blah blah." That way people would know you did'nt forget them, but know that it was a small wedding. That's my best idea, actually.
See you guys when I get back in a week and a half!
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Anyways, I think you should invite the people who mean the most to you. If someone gets offended about not being invited to your wedding, then throw a (seriously)cheap party afterwards for the people you wanted to invite, but just could't due to space and cash. I think most people would understand. At least I like to hope they would.
Another thing to consider is to make the invites very specific and have RSVP'ing the exact number of people they bring. I'm not up on the wedding ettiquite or anything, so I have no idea how that whole thing works.
So, just look at each name on the list and think of one of your favorite memories with that person, if it takes you longer than 10 seconds to think of something, cross them off the list.
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i say go in this order of cutting:
1. friends you havent seen in a long time (no you DONT have to invite everyone youve ridden on the bus with!)
2. co-workers and your moms co-workers. co-workers dont generally become offended unless you are working with someone that was already your best friend.
3. distant family that you know would honestly not give two shits. for instance, i have cousins that i wouldnt invite because im sure they never think about me, so why would i spend the time inviting them?
4. peoples children. adult-only weddings are popular when you havent got money.
5. also anyone that has no idea that you were even dating the same girl for 69789 years.
that should save you some cash, and most likely wont offend anyone.
remember that this is YOUR wedding and if people get all huffy, IGNORE IT.
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if you wrote nadia & guest, that means i would bring ME and a DATE.
if you invite mr. & mrs. frank wilholt (assuming thats your uncle haha) they really should only bring themselves, not a whole group.
and stay strong about the money thing, if people give you attitude let them know you couldnt afford to invite the entire world, and that you are sorry.
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Don't invite people that would only know you were getting married if they were invited.
Don't allow people to bring kids or guests-unless they won't know anyone else at the wedding. But seriously, no kids. Really emphasize the no guest thing. It's been done, you won't be an ass. :)
Have your friends double as assistants at the wedding. (Sound, set-up etc) That would help with costs, I think?
You could send out things after the wedding. Like, ur wedding picture on a little card saying "Liz and Marty were married amoungst close friends and family on blah blah blah." That way people would know you did'nt forget them, but know that it was a small wedding. That's my best idea, actually.
See you guys when I get back in a week and a half!
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