Not to the extent you're talking about, I don't think, but I know what you mean. While they don't feel particularly immuature to me, I have grown away from my group of guys friends. I still think of Spokane as my home but the people there that I'm "close" to feel a lot different than the people I'm close to at Beloit. BSFFA and the people in it feel like they have a lot closer, intimate relationship (which to some degree is probably natural, since we spend every day and every aspect of our day with each other). So while I do have friends back home they don't feel as close to me as the BSFFA ones do.
I did go to a Christmas party with a large group of my friends from high school and didn't feel particularly connected to them. Before that, I had spent all of Saturday with Alena but that was different because I talk with her on IM constantly and we are a lot closer than I am with most of my high school friends. When I hung out with one of the same people from my high school from that Christmas party on Tuesday it was a lot more fun to talk with her one on one. Then again, she's always been one of the people that I enjoyed talking to more.
Something else I noticed while talking to Johanna on Tuesday was the topic of conversation. Occasionally I'd talk about some books and authors or some tv show she'd never heard of and she'd point that out (most of the time it was just in passing and related otherwise to the conversation). It was strange to be the one making the references though because I'm so used to sitting in BSFFA and having references (particularly X-Men and Exalted) going over /my/ head.
People drift apart. This is because people change slowly over time, and if you don't talk to someone for a significant period of time then when you next meet you'll both realize that you're strangers who know a lot about each other's backgrounds but don't really KNOW each other. Which always feels weird and awkward.
What's REALLY weird is when you start hanging out with them for a while, how easy it is to slip back into being the person you were before you left, using mannerisms and modes of thought you thought you'd long outgrown. That can be frightening, especially if you're happy not to be that person anymore.
I know what you mean. I had forgotten about it because I haven't really just hung out with just them in a long time, but yea its a little bothering. I really don't like the person I used to be. To be fair the new me has a fair few flaws too, but I mind these less.
I feel the same way a lot. I've only been to Laudani's once and... well... I was bored. But, for me, it's less Laudani and more... everyone else. Especially Dan, lately. He's had the opportunity to grow up some, and he just plain hasn't. That's the hardest for me.
I'm loving the down time with my family more than anything else, and I'm not to bothered by not leaving my house other than for work. *shrugs*
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Something else I noticed while talking to Johanna on Tuesday was the topic of conversation. Occasionally I'd talk about some books and authors or some tv show she'd never heard of and she'd point that out (most of the time it was just in passing and related otherwise to the conversation). It was strange to be the one making the references though because I'm so used to sitting in BSFFA and having references (particularly X-Men and Exalted) going over /my/ head.
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What's REALLY weird is when you start hanging out with them for a while, how easy it is to slip back into being the person you were before you left, using mannerisms and modes of thought you thought you'd long outgrown. That can be frightening, especially if you're happy not to be that person anymore.
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I'm loving the down time with my family more than anything else, and I'm not to bothered by not leaving my house other than for work. *shrugs*
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