Comments | maryjanegoddess: Coming to terms with the fallout.

maryjanegoddess

Coming to terms with the fallout.

Nov 05, 2007 20:01

I just wanna know why. Why did he lie to me so much? Why has he turned this so nasty? Why is it that I broke up with him, yet I'm the one doing all the crying?

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sarmonster November 6 2007, 05:00:06 UTC

My guess is that if he's being nasty its to lash out against hurt he's feeling. I've seen my borther and other people do the same thing, and get bitter, hurtful and angry over what would otherwise have been a 'boring' breakup ( ... )

Thank you for the in depth reply. maryjanegoddess November 6 2007, 05:30:18 UTC

He has told me that he lies out of fear of my reaction. And it's not just that he doesn't pay attension to finances, he lies about them, and lies about how much he's working. He told me he was working full time the three months I was in Florida. He told me when I got home that he was just working part time. (Not to mention the fact that he hasnt held a job more than a few months since way before Jasper was born ( ... )

Re: Thank you for the in depth reply. sarmonster November 6 2007, 06:58:07 UTC

I stopped using messenger as it kept coming on at really inconvenient times, but you're welcome to e-mail me (sarah at sarmonster. NET), I'm usually online from Noon to one AM. I'll reply with my phone number too.

chaosqueen November 6 2007, 14:15:14 UTC

I have alot I could say, being the relationship that sarah mentioned, although it was only 3 years not 5.

But most things are are better left unsaid, or at least said in person. where the context can be properly expressed.

But dear, my adding you to my friends list and saying you are now part of the family had nothing to do with a continued relationship with him. So if you still want to go out to coffee I would be happy to. and I really wish the best for you and Jasper.

Thanks Gwen. maryjanegoddess November 6 2007, 15:26:02 UTC

I would love to hear what you have to say. I would love to have coffee with you, or even have you over for dinner. Do you have a messenger? You can email me at karmastar19@aol.com

I look forward to hearing from you.

vivaine666 November 6 2007, 18:15:23 UTC

This is mostly just my opinion and guesses, so don't take it as gospel (hehehe like I take the gospel seriously. Ahem, back to what I was saying) He lied because he didn't want to deal with a negative reaction from you and he believed that he could get everything all fixed by the time you got back. He is being "nasty" and making the breakup hard because he's hurt and, like many humans, wants you to be as hurt as he is. And there's probably a little irrational part thinking that if the breakup is hard, you won't want to do it anymore as it will be easier to just keep things the way they were. Like I said, small irrational part. And the 3rd part, I think you're wrong. I'm sure he's crushed by this. It's very sad.