Comments | master_baker: Letting the Days Go By.

master_baker

Letting the Days Go By.

Jan 31, 2005 19:03

I don't make a lot of friends and when I do I don't usually initiate activities. I managed by living in community homes during my twenties. Need someone to talk to? check the livingroom. This worked pretty well for me ( Read more... )

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stephalynn February 1 2005, 14:31:58 UTC

I'm glad to see you are writing in your journal. You have fabulous children and they adore you. I miss them. You know that. Once you get the bakery thing under control, you should try joining a book club again. It would be good for the kids if you were not dependent on them for all of your social needs.

master_baker February 1 2005, 19:43:58 UTC

Yes, I know too well how much you miss the children, that was a reason for our falling out. And they don't meet my social needs. I want ot be with them as much as possible, because whatever time I have with them is still not enough. As you know I have a minimum of social needs. I don't think I'm avoiding people as much as enjoying my alone time. I know that sounds odd. I agree that as soon as the bakery time decreases I'll have the energy to do social activities. That must be why I'm enjoying my alone time, I need it to recharge. Thanks for the comment.

stephalynn February 1 2005, 20:55:12 UTC

I think that as an introvert you can get especially drained when working with people and helping customers all day. I understand the need to recharge with alone time (and sleep). I think I meant emotional needs when I said social. Your kids take care of you emotionally.

master_baker February 2 2005, 19:45:25 UTC

Again, I respectfully disagree. I love Stuart and Liam and they love me, but it is not the love one feels toward an adult. That is a need that isn't met. Converstaions are quite different , too. Snuggling with Liam is not the same as snuggling with a sweatheart. I could go on.... I love being with the children and can even be jealous of sharing my time of them with others. But they don't meet any of my needs that I experience with other adults. Nor can any amount of adults meet the needs my children fill. We humans are a complicated bunch. I need a road map.

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Re: If I may hazard a thought... master_baker February 16 2005, 21:20:01 UTC

Yeah we met at Dave's Lord of the Rings Spectacular Spectacular. I was dressed as an Orc. Seriously, I was the one playing footies with you. Ok, while that's not a basis for a knowlegde of each other, it is a start.

I'm not really that introverted. I enjoy being with people, I just don't seek people out. Last 3 years, it's been more of a time issue. Between running a bakery that has yet to show a profit and trying to do things with my sons who live with their mom, I 'm low on excess time and energy.. I understand what and why I'm doing all this stuff, of course it wasn't suppose to be this difficult. I'm very comfortable with the standards I have, but it can be difficult explaining that to the extroverts.