God I wish

[max_ofthe_earth]

I wish others would see me for who I really am. So few people do. I hate being called a lesbian. I just hate it. Im not. Im not a lesbian, Im not a dyke. I'm Not! but thats how people see me. A girl. Who likes other girls. Thats not me. Jesus, it frustrates me because I don't know how to show people. I can't show people. Its how they are, to label

Comments

[nerdork]

Most people are so accustomed to seeing the world in simplified, easily-categorizable terms that it's difficult to get them to understand differently. It's really frustrating but I guess more of a function of society than an individual flaw in many cases. I've found that a lot of people are receptive if someone actually tries talking to them; it's just that so many people have gone through life without their notions being challenged that they're honestly unaware.

It's difficult, though. The reason for gravitating towards labels is that, well, it does make things easier for some people -- grouping and labeling require less taxing thought processes than aiming to recognize and understand variance -- but it hurts those of us who don't and can't comfortably fit those expectations. I use the label "queer" for myself because it's relatively versatile, but even that can be problematic!

[max_ofthe_earth]

you're right. That tends to be my word too...."Queer". but when I say that people are like, "Oh, you're a lesbian?" hmm

[xxnodaybuttoday]

People are so thick. I know how frustrating it is. I wish people could be more open and not have to box everything in.

[max_ofthe_earth]

yeah I know. but like I said, its kind of instinctive of people. We cant blame them for it. But it still sucks

[search_rip]

Aaaaw sweetie *hugs*

:( It hurts me that people labels you :(

I see you as a person but most important as my handsome boyfriend Max... I hope you feel better soon *more hugs*

[max_ofthe_earth]

thanks search I love you

[max_ofthe_earth]

thanks man. I know. And the worst is when you're hanging out, feeling like just one of the guys, and someone is like, "Oh, so....." and basically kicks you in the face with a big old "dyke."

[papa_will]

Yeah, I know it too. What's more frustrating is that after you start transitioning (if that's what you choose) you'll get a lot of well-intentioned "wow, I couldn't take it that far" from lesbians, as if you were just like them but ... more.

You know better, and your date knows better. That's what's really important. ;)

[max_ofthe_earth]

well....my date didnt. :( thanks a lot bud, I totally agree with that. I love lesbians but I dont put myself in that lable, that circle.