Newbie with baggage

[jessswiftpaw]

As far back as I remember, I always identified myself as a lesbian. Of course, mostly becasue my parents dissaprove of homosexuality and such, I never pursued any sort of relationship with a woman. Then when I was fifteen I met a great guy. We are now together. Yet, I never feel attracted to other men and I really want to be with a woman. I am

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[aehathor]

Do you know if he would consider polyamory? A friend of mine felt the same way and she and her husband have a polyamorous marriage. They really love the other people they became involved with, and have some good, solid relationships with their other partners. It's just a thought. I know my husband at this time would not consider such a relationship for me, because I am really attracted to other women, and it's difficult for me because I can't seem to stop thinking about it sometimes. I love him, but I love women, too. It's hard........I think I am rambling........Sorry!

[aehathor]

Its ok, I ramble too. :) And no he is not willing to share me. I am also possessive of him so it is fine. I would rather break up with him than share. I just do not want to divorce him later because I ca not be with him. I think marriage is for life. Thanx for your comments. ;)

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[jessswiftpaw]

~sigh~ well, I always forget to log on...thanx for the comments...that was me above.

[lena3]

I'm not one who can do the threesome thing either. It sounds like you can be happy with him for now. He has a place in your heart and there are reasons you and he mesh right now. That may change, as you get older and need more experiences and he wants more out of a relationship, like children. I think it's wonderful that you can talk to him about this. That's so important. Enjoy him and your love right now, and take things as they go. Good luck! :)

[jessswiftpaw]

thanx. Yes that makes sense. I just get scared I may get tempted and cheat. I am way too impulsive. I appreciate the responses.:D

[turkishb]

Break up with him, for his sake. Your heart will leave him. Respect him enough to have him be with someone that really wants him.