Baby Shower and cheeky friends.

[mcmurphy79]

How do I feel about a baby shower? This is the first thing I need to answer. Do I even want one? On the one hand it's nice people want to celebrate and they are excited but on the other it's very American and could be a bit fake. It would be nice to get some gifts from friends and would certainly help but I also don't want people to feel like they

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[lerabollera]

I don't want one and I would be so embarrassed if I was thrown one. If people want to buy baby prezzies then they can. I won't stop them but, to me, baby showers are a bit like getting the begging bowl out.

[mcmurphy79]

yeah I feel that too, see first paragraph. I think it's great if a group of friends want to get together and make a fuss/help out with some stuff. We did this for someone at work and got her stuff for her swollen ankles and stuff but it was because we all wanted to (turns out I'm not as heartless as I thought). But it seems like just Sarah and Vicki want it. I don't give a fuck. I'm not asking people for gifts. In my experience people give if they can/want to and if not that's fine.

I'll just tell sarah that and to be fair you know the ups and downs I have felt over this and I don't want to be resentful. I should have nipped this in the bud but me being me I just thought she'd drop it. I'm such a sodding people pleaser.

[cmcmck]

I agree with you not wanting to do this. Why we have to pick up on every Americanism in the book is beyond me.

I'm sure all your friends and family will see littlun soon enough :o)

[cmcmck]

Oh and you may be amused!

When I first came across the term I read it as 'baby shower' (like wot you wash under every morning) and wondered what all that was about!

I can be a bit slow on the uptake sometimes! :o)

[mcmurphy79]

I'd feel odd doing that even. I usually buy some slightly bigger clothes for 6 months onwards or something cute like a wee teddy or rattle.

U'd like to buy something?

[mcmurphy79]

Aww bless u. If you do want to buy something a wee rattle or something that kids chew on would be great or maybe a wee small bear toy or a bear wash cloth or something. Something that is you. X

[zvezda]

I think most people I know do them because baby items are expensive, you need so much, and it is a way to get things you need. I have never known anyone to approach the idea of a baby shower as anything more than just pragmatic. Is it non-traditional to give people gifts for their baby in your country?

I guess I don't know what is so distastefully "American" about it, other than the fact it's a party. I guess Americans have parties for a lot of things? I have never really thought about it. Then again, I didn't even have a normal wedding, much less showers for anything. I have only ever been to one baby shower, although, ironically, I am going to one this weekend.

[mcmurphy79]

I know they aren't just American they do them in other countries and I can see the idea of women getting together and sharing wisdom is nice. It just feel so mercenary to me, and a bit dull. X

[zvezda]

I agree entirely. I am kind of dreading the one this weekend. I don't have children, don't know much about them, and have no idea what to say to everyone there. I may just drop off some clothes I bought and bail early to go drink beers with the men. ;)

[skip_to_fiona]

My friend had a girlie get together in her last few weeks of pregnancy. But there were no presents. Just friends spending time together before everything got crazy.

That was a really good idea and a nice night out. We had a karaoke booth!