Another date with the rudest woman in the world

[mdyesowitch]

So at Mahj Jongg last night, I had another tiff with the rudest woman in the world. She thinks I should listen with blind unquestioning faith to my doctor and do whatever she tells me, including submitting to foetal monitoring twice a week and appointments once a week. She, of course, has no idea of the procedure or the time involved or the

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Bean Dip

[kayranord]

may as well start practicing it now... you're only barely seeing the tip of the iceberg of random people giving you unsolicited advice.

Random Rude Person: "You should blah blah blah"
Marci/Hoppie: "Oh thanks for thinking of us. We'll take that into consideration. Could you please pass the bean dip over there?"

And sometimes the role of RRP is filled by a Well-Intentioned Family Member.

Another good strategy is to use "the doctor" (well, not when they're telling you to blindly follow a doctor's advice, lol.) It may not necessarily be *your* doctor you're referring too. There are lots of doctors that have online resources such as Dr. Sears (pediatrician/author: www.askdrsears.com), Dr. Jack Newman (breastfeeding expert: www.drjacknewman.com) and Dr. James McKenna (mother/baby sleep expert: http://www.nd.edu/~jmckenn1/lab/)

[girliegoalie]

I wasn't sure what way you were going with pregnancy and delivery so I've been keeping my opinions to myself. I personally feel the medical profession gets a bit too involved in a process they could just sit back and watch happen. But then again I'm going to school to be a chiropractor and I don't have the best opinion of MDs and "evidence based" medicine.

Then again, I fired my OB at 36wks pregnant when he said the phrase "control the delivery" too many times during an appointment. This statement more nuts when you realize Hal was born at 37 wks.

That said, you're doing great. Trust your instincts, you know better than any machine how your baby is doing.

[maliyes]

You are the consumer and the doctor has been hired by you. Sure you listen to the advice, just as you listen to the advice of a plumber or a landscaper, but ultimately, you make the choice.
Don't know if you've read any Bradley childbirth stuff, but they talk about "informed consumerism." Know your stuff. Doctors offer their products. You accept or decline.

And B went to the majority of OB appts with Nat, a good number with Asher, and quite a few with Nora. It's not odd at all. This is your family. I assume he will want to participate in pediatrician visits as well. Same difference.

[cassie_o]

I have said this already. It is your baby and if y9ou don't feel there is a need for the monitor then don't so it. If there was some huge risk then I would do it. I did what was best for me and my baby and made my doctor listen to me.

Do what you need to do. Sitting on a monitor is NO FUN AT ALL!