Comments | meadwench: You just never can tell.....

meadwench

You just never can tell.....

Nov 16, 2004 22:14

Hmmph. Just Hmmph. I like my friends. Even when I don't agree with them. Even when they don't agree with me. But I *cannot* and will not be a punching bag for someone who has a different personal priority list than me and tries to make me conform to it. Yes, we share an activity. Yes, we both enjoy it ( Read more... )

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capi November 17 2004, 04:13:04 UTC

*wince*

I'm sorry all that went down, luv. You know you didn't deserve any of it. ((( hugs )))

~prayers for fast healing on every level~

meadwench November 17 2004, 14:47:13 UTC

Dunno if I deserved it, but I do know that going to the event would have put me down for twice as long, and so far I've been off my feet for 3 days, after gutting out a weekend performance......thanks for your prayers hon

Get well luv sagcelt62 November 17 2004, 04:27:36 UTC

YOU have your priorities straight for sure and if this *friend* does not understand that, then it is their loss (of reality)...

HUGS

Re: Get well luv meadwench November 17 2004, 14:49:51 UTC

The friend is very involved with the group. I am too, but I have to place health and family first. I made the choice to be a parent, and with my hubby out of town this week, I *have* to be able to deal with parenting, not be flat on my back in pain.....thanks for the hugs..

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meadwench November 17 2004, 14:50:13 UTC

I'll try to catch you online, dear

starcat_jewel November 17 2004, 04:53:55 UTC

Medical problems trump anything else. Period. I've had a friend who was in very poor health and who frequently backed out of previously-made plans at the last minute because she was having a bad day; I have other friends who have fibromyalgia, who literally don't know from hour to hour when their bodies are going to rebel against them. Is it frustrating? Yes, certainly. Do I bitch and moan to them about it? Hell no, that would be beyond rude. I'm sorry your former friend has so little grasp of both reality and common courtesy... but it may well be that in the long run, you'll be better off for having severed the connection now.

And I'm sorry we never connected at TRF -- I tried to call you, but your phone was on voicemail, and if you got my messages you may not have been able to reach me; connectivity onsite, frankly, sucks. Maybe next year!

meadwench November 17 2004, 14:51:45 UTC

Yeah, I'm with you. I call in sick to work when this happens (well, at least I did when I had an office job!), so why wouldn't I do it for this?

Sorry I missed you too. I tried to call and kept getting the forever ring, you're not kidding about the signal on site sucking.......we'll try again! I'm planning on coming down for Scarborough in the spring,and hope to be at TRF again next fall...

queenmaggie November 17 2004, 13:34:41 UTC

wince. Sorry to hear this. health and family have to come first, particularly when it's a hobby/pleasure activity that you have to drop. Not fair to give you the lecture that goes to people who are professionals and fail commitments when you are (positive connotation) an amateur- ie, doing it for the love of the activity.
Have a nice slug of wiskey for the back spasms, midear. ;)

meadwench November 17 2004, 14:58:47 UTC

You mean a professional would be expected to perform when she couldn't stand up? Not my kind of job then. Professional or amateur, health comes first, and I'd rather be out for a few days and miss one thing, than go despite the body's warnings and be out for two weeks, which is what happened *last* time I ignored the pain ( ... )