burnt out

[meganlynnangela]

I am so tired of feeling so strongly what other people feel. Maybe I don't empathize more than normal people and everyone else is just stronger than me. I don't know. But it seems that I can rationalize what anyone does given their circumstance. It doesn't matter if what the person does or says hurts me, I can often understand exactly where

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[lauralareine]

I've been walking the line on this issue for years...like you, i often feel that I lack a backbone, but I also feel that people step all over me. I felt like it was an either/or situation, that my only choices were to A) say nothing, and B) flip out at people. And I wasn't about to flip out at people

[jumpinglegacy]

This is a topic we covered in therapy recently- setting boundaries to preserve yourself, otherwise if you're always doing/feeling for other people, you get completely drained and like you said, lose your sense of self. We were told to practice owning our emotions - recognizing and feeling that it's okay to be upset/angry/hurt/etc. and not always allowing ourselves to just feel whatever the person we're with is feeling. Also, know it's okay to disagree with people and their decisions - it doesn't mean you have to love them any less, but differences in opinion is what makes us all unique people. If everyone in the world thought/felt the same things at the same times about the same issues, we would no longer be the wonderful individuals that we are. Embrace yourself, try setting boundaries to keep yourself from submerging in others' thoughts and feelings, and see how it goes :)