that was the main source of my troubles with my roommates. I work full time and take a full load of classes, yet they thought that I was inconveniencing them by asking that they not bring parties back to the dorm at 4 in the morning, or have their friends over at like midnight (in the living room) rapping and step dancing (I asked if maybe they continue such parties in their bedroom, since there weren't too many friends there, and received a frosty "fine, everyone go home" response). Yet, when I had to wake up at 6am or so I took care to quietly close doors and turn the microwave off with a second or so left on the timer so that the beeping wouldn't wake them up.
That is SO lame/rediculous. Are you going to confront her about it?
And I agree, getting drunk does NOT make for a fun time. It's sad when people depend on liquor for a good time. "Enjoying life" while trashed isn't really enjoying life! That's being jaded. Life's much more enjoyable when it's real.
I wrote her an email sticking up for myself--nothing accusing or mean, just sticking up for myself. She wrote me and said I need to loosen up and stop looking down on people for drinking (I don't. I never care if people drink around me. Everyone does. I just don't do it). I actually enjoy the people I hang around, I can remember it, and I don't throw up the next day. Man, if that's not enjoying life, I don't know what is.
Is it too hard to let it roll off you? I know in certain circumstances it is tough for me to do, but she probably isn't too worried about what you think about this, so you are the one wasting all that negative energy :) Too early in the year for that eh? Happy New Year!
I've decided not to respond to the email she wrote me saying I need to stop judging people for drinking (and I don't at all). She said I need to loosen up and have a better outlook on life so I'll be more easy-going. I am actually quite optimistic about things but I guess she doesn't care to see it. But I know what you mean about the negative energy so I'm just not going to do it.
I hear you Mehgan; don't worry; more than likely I will be with you whenever these parties go on; Coca-Cola on the rocks please. I can't do what I'm doing ever again; my blood is so boiling hot right now it isn't even funny. Anyway, you do the right thing; keep it up!
Gawd! I totally understand how you feel - I have a sister who says the same kinds of things about me, and like you, I don't drink either. It gets old, but I stopped confronting her years ago. It was pointless, didn't go anywhere, and only made things worse.
I get sad when I see other sisters who get along so good, so I never rule out that one day things will be different. Until then... I kinda stay clear of doing things with her.
I think that I am going to be the bigger person in this and not say anything else to her because it's not worth it. I know how I feel about my life and how she feels, but frankly, I'm happier knowing that I am satisfied in life, sober or unsober. I'm glad we don't live in the same town because it's easier not to fight with her.
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And I agree, getting drunk does NOT make for a fun time. It's sad when people depend on liquor for a good time. "Enjoying life" while trashed isn't really enjoying life! That's being jaded. Life's much more enjoyable when it's real.
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Anyway, how was your trip??
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My trip was great! I'm in the middle of writing an epic post about it :)
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I get sad when I see other sisters who get along so good, so I never rule out that one day things will be different. Until then... I kinda stay clear of doing things with her.
*hugs*
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