Halt on the Baby Making...

[megdaniel]

Ugh, this is confusing!  So last night we had a discussion on this topic and it didn’t go very well. I think we’re gonna hold off on baby making for awhile.  As much as that disappoints me, I can’t push him into doing anything he’s just not ready for.

Last night, we just started casually talking about this and all of a sudden he says, “Ya know, I

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[city_cowgirl]

I don't have a LOT of advice... if you are not PREVENTING... in my opinion you are as good as trying. No temping etc. was our rule and we got PG just as fast as some who temp. I guess what I'm trying to say... he wants to keep it 'natural' and that I think can be a better thing for the rest of your relationship. I read about SO MANY people getting frustrated because they need to DTD TONIGHT to have a chance but DH is working/sick/etc. Then it becomes ALL ABOUT THE BABYMAKING!

One LJ friend of mine made a great observation lately that everyone seems in such a rush for the big things in life (graduations, marriage,babies) that we forget about each and every little good thing that happens to us. Just try to enjoy them as much as possible now and know the time will come when it will happen or DH will decide to kick up the trying a notch.

[megdaniel]

Yeah I guess thats true! I don't want this thing to get frustrating to us or put a strain on our relationship. I need to just chill a bit.... :)

[elaine77]

Men are silly sometimes. If you're not preventing, you ARE trying! ;)

Take your time and see what happens. It will happen sooner than later! Once he finds out he's gonna be a daddy, something tells me he will be elated, of course!

I think when men analyze what having a baby means, it naturally becomes the unknown and frightening. Trust me...he'll be thrilled when the time comes for you two! Don't worry. I think men and women just look at these things much differently!!

[kate1125]

Oh sweetie, I think you know I understand completely how you feel. I have a feeling though, that you will have a surprise before you know it and he will be happier than a clam.
I am so sorry you feel disappointed and wish there was something I could say to make it better, but know you are not alone in your feelings. E-mail me if you ever want to talk about it (kate.quesada@gmail.com).

[chicbride]

Find something else to focus your energy on! MBA much? :)

[chicbride]

Okay, reading over that, I realized my reply may not seem very sympathetic. I probably should've worded my comment differently. What I meant to say is....

I'm going through the same exact thing right now. Even though I want a child, I'm not sure if I'm 100% ready and either is Kevin. So we're finding other things to focus our time on... Kevin's going to be busy studying and I'm taking classes. You mentioned thinking about getting your MBA--now's a better time than ever!

[megdaniel]

Yeah thats true! I might look into that.

[mrsshoegal]

I think if you are aren't preventing and enjoy a healthy sexual realtionship that is trying! : ) I think too if you just enjoy yourselves and your life together you will have little surprise before you know it.