Getting Married for beachpsalms
As with much that is worthwhile in life getting married is really not at all like I thought it would be. It's not like most marriage or wedding related narratives would have one believe. And I am glad I was asked to talk about getting married and not weddings as the wedding is boring and the getting married part isn't. Also I'm oodles more comfortable with the one than the other. Why am I getting married? Well I am the marrying kind. I believe in the sacrament and the institution. I believe it's one of my many vocations (see previous post about really being very Catholic). If that's not romantic enough for ye I also love The GC and want to spend the rest of my life with him. We are all excited about waking up together every morning and seeing each other every day.
The whole getting married process feels very adult too in the best possible way and there is a lot of peace in that. I suppose this was a question about my life that I always had and now I have an answer.
Being engaged is quite, quite weird though. I find it continually surprising. We have decided to get married, but we aren't married yet and we are waiting for no good reason at all apart from my job (in the Catholic sacrament the couple marry each other and the priest is simply a witness and facilitator of that, so if we've already decided it's more than half done). It's an odd sensation, must be even odder for people who do live together I'd imagine. I find myself doing very strange things, like saying the word "trousseau" to myself repeatedly whenever I look at my underwear drawer because I can't believe I've spent that much money on such fripperies. How this incantation makes things better I'm not sure, but it does.
You were probably expecting something more profound, frankly so was I, get back to me after the w word and I'll let you know the difference.